gemend is offline gemend Post #1  November 19,2009, 7:52pm
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Maybe a stupid question. When an eharmony match closes me, I usually leave it at that. But sometimes when I close someone, they send me the message: God luck to you. And I could reopen them.

Are people just being nice and saying God luck to you or do they want to be re-opened? Just asking, I am curious and new to Eharmony.
 
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Dear gemend,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice and to our Singles site! No such thing as a stupid question!

My guess is that they are being nice. If they would like you to re-open the match, they have the chance to send you a more direct message.

But perhaps some Single members have another take on this...

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gemend is offline gemend Post #3  November 19,2009, 8:32pm
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That would be my take..I am just not very good at subtle messages and thought that maybe I was missing the point. Thanks!
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #4  November 19,2009, 8:36pm

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They're being nice.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
They're being nice.
ditto
 
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They are being polite and nice.

If matches are closed for me I just close them without reply unless it wa someone I really thought there was something between us or there was a potential for it.

Personnally I wish the closed mesages had the option of an open ended statemnt.

For example say someone closed your match because of not wanting to communicate. In your refly you could say to them why you couldnt like you were out of town on business or in the hospital.
 
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Yet, there are people on the boards who have admitted that they send that knowing the Re-Open message appears, and hope that they do get reopened.

I find it annoying getting that message, because I have to wonder if it is being sent for that purpose.
 
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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #8  November 20,2009, 7:07pm
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Yet, there are people on the boards who have admitted that they send that knowing the Re-Open message appears, and hope that they do get reopened.

I find it annoying getting that message, because I have to wonder if it is being sent for that purpose.
Which is generally why, if I do send a response back in hopes (sadly) that they might consider Reopening the Match someday, that I usually toggle both:

Good Luck with your Search
Please Reconsider.

That way, it is a whole lot more clear that I do wish they would reconsider, but if not, good luck.
 
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They are:
A: Being nice
B: Acknowledging you, that they received your close message.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #10  November 20,2009, 8:11pm
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Let's not have this argument yet again.

Although it is possible to re-open a match who sends you "Good luck with your search", no one interprets this as a request to re-open. That's what the other messages are for.
 
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