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This isn't on eHarmony, but it's pretty much the same on a couple of sites I'm on. I know I'm physically attractive and have a mix of professional and personal pictures up, but I'm trying to make sure I'm putting my personality out there in the best way possible. Looking for some constructive criticism. Thanks!



I'm pretty laid back and work a traditional office job. I have varied interests that range from the culinary arts to dance and literature. Some people consider me to be a study in contrasts, but everything I do reflects who I am and what I value at my core.

As far as what I'm looking for is concerned, I love calm with a spark. Patience with passion. A touch of nerdiness is nice. Principles are sexy. Honesty's hot. On a more practical level, I'm looking for someone grounded who makes an active effort to keep life from getting dull.

Relationships...well...I really believe a relationship should be a shelter from the slings and arrows of life. Yes, they require nurturing and time, but at the end of the day, they should give energy and life, and not drain them. I'm looking for someone I can grow with as a person.

So...if these words make you want to read more words, I'd love to get to know you too. Later
 
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My impression of you from your profile is that you are calm and considered but like some excitement; you're intelligent and articulate; have a variety of interests; want someone of good character who can add to your life without being a pain in the a$$!

If that's who you are, your profile conveys it well.

The only suggestion is rewrite "I'm looking for someone grounded" to say what that means to you. The word "grounded" can be interpreted in a lot of different ways. E.g. "I'm looking for someone who's level-headed" "... who's prosaic" "... who's got a good job and stable home" etc.
 
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Thanks sassafrass. That's exactly what I wanted to convey. I'll see what I can do to be more clear on what "grounded" is. Thanks!
 
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I think I figured out my problem. There's nothing "nice" about my profile, and from what I hear, men like "nice". My problem is that while I'm considerate, caring, warm and all that stuff, I'm just not conventionally "sweet".
 
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peppermint4209 wrote :
I think I figured out my problem. There's nothing "nice" about my profile, and from what I hear, men like "nice". My problem is that while I'm considerate, caring, warm and all that stuff, I'm just not conventionally "sweet".
No bull, I thought your profile is one of the nice ones I've read.

If I were to nitpick however,...maybe rewrite this:

A touch of nerdiness is nice. Principles are sexy. Honesty's hot.

I personally don't like the word 'turn on' 'sexy' etc on a profile, but that's just me. I just think people's profiles (not necessarily yours though) have too much focus on being 'hot' 'sexy' 'turn on' etc.

But other than that, I like your profile!
 
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peppermint4209 wrote :
I think I figured out my problem. There's nothing "nice" about my profile, and from what I hear, men like "nice". My problem is that while I'm considerate, caring, warm and all that stuff, I'm just not conventionally "sweet".
You could easily work that into this paragraph:

Relationships...well...I really believe a relationship should be a shelter from the slings and arrows of life. I'm considerate, caring, and warm, and Yes, relationships require nurturing and time, but at the end of the day, they should give energy and life, and not drain them. I'm looking for someone I can grow with as a person.
 
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PY_2 wrote :
No bull, I thought your profile is one of the nice ones I've read.

If I were to nitpick however,...maybe rewrite this:

A touch of nerdiness is nice. Principles are sexy. Honesty's hot.

I personally don't like the word 'turn on' 'sexy' etc on a profile, but that's just me. I just think people's profiles (not necessarily yours though) have too much focus on being 'hot' 'sexy' 'turn on' etc.

But other than that, I like your profile!
Thanks...I was trying to figure out a way to convey some of the values people consider boring in a more exciting way. I see what you're saying though.
 
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Sassafras54 wrote :
You could easily work that into this paragraph:

Relationships...well...I really believe a relationship should be a shelter from the slings and arrows of life. I'm considerate, caring, and warm, and Yes, relationships require nurturing and time, but at the end of the day, they should give energy and life, and not drain them. I'm looking for someone I can grow with as a person.
Thanks Sassafras. I'm going to put it at the beginning, just to set the tone of the whole profile.
 
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Yeah, that's a better idea!
 
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