When do you close a match? How do you know if it's inactive?


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kjaere is offline kjaere Post #1  November 17,2009, 1:28pm
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I am sure this is not a new topic, but since I am new I hope you'll indulge me. I sent first questions to a guy 4 days ago and he hasn't responded. His photos are recent--last month. Should I just take it that he's not interested, or is his account inactive? How can i tell the difference? Just wondering how this works....
 
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Laughingdaily is offline Laughingdaily Post #2  November 17,2009, 3:16pm
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You should not be in any hurry here. Life happens and sometimes it can take a while. Give it at least a week or 2. Then maybe send a nudge.

Then after a while you can close it if there is no response. Be patient, and do not expect any real time responses.
 
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There's a lot of things that could be going on.

He could be on the fence about you.
He could have his plate full at the moment - meaning he feels he's dating enough people (but is still keeping his options open).
He could have a busy life and visits eHarmony once a week.
He may not realize you've communicated with him (though that would make him seem a bit dense I guess).

That was just off the top of my head. After a week of no response, I would say to send a nudge. I usually wait a month before I decide on closure. Some people do it faster.
 
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Thanks for the great advice. I'll hold off on closing him out. Thanks for responding!
 
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How did this work out for you? Did he ever respond? I've been waiting a week and a half for a match I'm really interested in to respond... it's so frustrating, lol
 
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How did this work out for you? Did he ever respond? I've been waiting a week and a half for a match I'm really interested in to respond... it's so frustrating, lol
 
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