islandrain80 is offline islandrain80 Post #1  November 10,2009, 7:13am
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I sent an icebreaker to a guy a few weeks ago (different dating site). He replied back 2 weeks later...apologizing and saying he was frustrated with dating sites and took a break. And asked if I was still around.

I replied back, saying I was. This was Oct. 30.

He's been online since then, but no reply. Should I nudge him? I'm not sitting around staring at my computer, waiting for a reply. But he seemed interested...then nothing. Thought about sending a message: Now it's my turn to ask...you still around?
 
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I don't nudge people, infact when the Nudge message comes up that is my cue to close them out for good! I really don't have time to waste on people who aren't 100% interested in me.
 
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Seemed interested?!

Sorry Islandrain, People who are interested don't act like that. I think he was just venting his frustrations to the first person he encountered

Send him an email.. It can't hurt and you have nothing to lose.

I wouldn't say... you still around though. ask a question or make a joke.. Give him something he needs think about.. 'You still around" is a one word answer!
 
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Annnnne is offline Annnnne Post #4  November 10,2009, 8:41am
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He's been online since then, but no reply.

Am I missing something??? Can you tell how often someone logs on with eH??? I know you can with Match.
 
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Annnnne wrote :
Am I missing something??? Can you tell how often someone logs on with eH??? I know you can with Match.
islandrain80 wrote :
I sent an icebreaker to a guy a few weeks ago (different dating site).
Annnne.. yes.. I think you may have missed this from the OP

and no.. you cannot tell on eH..
 
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Personally I might nudge the guy, I could throw my arms up in the air and assume he is not interested in me and go about my business or I could nudge the guy he will either then begin communication again or still ignore you or whatever. But does it hurt it try? I think not. The nudge button was put for a reason and I say use it.
 
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I vote no nudge. He knows you are interested, he has been online, and you might just irritated him. Why do they have that nudge thing anyways?
 
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Annnnne wrote :
He's been online since then, but no reply.

Am I missing something??? Can you tell how often someone logs on with eH??? I know you can with Match.
You cannot tell when someone has been on eHarmony except when they view you. But the OP did say that this was on a different dating site. Most other sites do indicate when you were last on. (That is why when I was on Match I would sometimes view my matches without logging on)
 
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I say no nudge. I'd just move on and let things happen the way they are.
 
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This is an interesting question. I tend to agree with the Captain that you have nothing to loose by sending him an e-mail. On the other hand if he was actually interested then when you replied to his e-mail that was an indication that you were still interested in talking to him. So really the ball is in his court.
 
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