Nancy_J is offline Nancy_J Post #1  November 8,2009, 2:34pm
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I have been communicating with a gentleman on EH. Once we hit stage 3 of the communication process, his response time slowed way down. I understand busy schedules and the fact that the questions on stage 3 involve a bit more thought than just checking boxes...don't get me wrong. I waited a week and a half before sending a nudge after I sent my stage 3 questions. He replied almost immediately after the nudge was sent. Same thing happened when we hit OC....waited a week...sent a nudge...he answered immediately. Not to sound like an impatient pita, but how many nudges is too many? It's not like he's not answering my communication...I just have to keep nudging him. Since I'm new to EH, I'm just wondering if you think he's worth my time? Should I have to keep nudging someone for responses? I really do like him, so I'm willing to stick it out....just thought I'd seek out some advice
 
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I have been communicating with a gentleman on EH. Once we hit stage 3 of the communication process, his response time slowed way down. I understand busy schedules and the fact that the questions on stage 3 involve a bit more thought than just checking boxes...don't get me wrong. I waited a week and a half before sending a nudge after I sent my stage 3 questions. He replied almost immediately after the nudge was sent. Same thing happened when we hit OC....waited a week...sent a nudge...he answered immediately. Not to sound like an impatient pita, but how many nudges is too many? It's not like he's not answering my communication...I just have to keep nudging him. Since I'm new to EH, I'm just wondering if you think he's worth my time? Should I have to keep nudging someone for responses? I really do like him, so I'm willing to stick it out....just thought I'd seek out some advice
Considering the nature of a nudge, one is enough. No sense in waving your hands around from the sidelines hoping to get noticed.
 
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I have found that sometimes there is confusion about who starts stage 3. I have had matches respond to a nudge at that point. If I needed another nudge at the start of OC, I'd begin to doubt the match's interest. I'd nudge again but I'd only wait 2 or 3 days before closing the match. If the match wants to be re-opened, he/she will have to ask.

I believe you're only allowed one nudge per stage, so you're out of nudges anyway.
 
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Thank you both for your quick and very helpful replies!
 
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Except as melman says some people seem to not understand that you have to take turns it really seems to me that if you have to nudge then they must not really be interested. But yes I do send nudges too.
 
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