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Been on this question for nearly a week now and cannot find an answer:

What is the one dream for your life you most look forward to having come true?

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- November 7th, 2009, 11:28 am
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I think to answer this question, it may help if you think about ... oh, I don't know ... how about "What is the one dream for your life you most look forward to having come true?"

You shouldn't want others to answer your questions for you. And I hope you won't take others' thoughts on this, and give them out as your own.

Just answer the question. It's not that hard.
- November 7th, 2009, 11:45 am
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Thanks Melman, please stop replying to my posts.
- November 7th, 2009, 11:59 am
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- November 7th, 2009, 12:19 pm
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I have to agree with melman on this one. We don't have any clue to what you are looking for in your life or in a relationship.

Do you want most in life to be CEO of the company where you work? Do you want most in life to own your own company? Is your ultimate desire to retire tomorrow and move to a tropical island and spend your days sitting on the beach? Is your desire in life to get married, have two kids and live in a house with a white picket fence out front?

Just put in what you would like for your life to be like and if you have been struggling with this for a week you best do it soon before she decides that you are not interested and poofed and she closes you.
- November 8th, 2009, 09:44 am
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Bro, online dating ain't for you.
- November 9th, 2009, 04:57 pm
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Put in what first came to mind when you read the question. Just be honest to who you are and do not try to answer it to fit what you think the match may be looking for. If your dream is about traveling, career, relationship or family, then say so.
- November 9th, 2009, 08:41 pm
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MQRegan wrote :
Been on this question for nearly a week now and cannot find an answer:

What is the one dream for your life you most look forward to having come true?

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There's your reply to the question
- November 10th, 2009, 09:49 am
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Overthinking it! don't try to find the perfect answer that you think a match wants to hear!

Just answer it! A rather simple question doesn't need a million dollar answer

example: I dream one day I'll get the chance to see the Cubs win a world series!
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- November 10th, 2009, 09:59 am
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jesus that is a hard question! give the man a break. Many factors to consider here with the knowledge that whatever you answer will be extrapolated by the person reading it to define you. that's heavy!

And let's get a little less literal on the OP's cry for help and help him understand what the question is really asking and then maybe he can figure out the answer himself. To me the question is an opportunity to see what excites or inspires you. The fact that it is an opportunity to "wish" makes it easier because all practicality is removed. This gives you an opportunity to be creative and also show some personality, humor and creativity.

and if you instead read the question as "what would be a really great thing to happen to you?" it might help to figure out an unstated "passion" (that word is a cliche and a little intimidating). Your match wants a glimpse at what is your carrot on a stick.
- November 10th, 2009, 12:39 pm
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