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Another OC I got on earlier this week I asked if she would be up for chatting over the tel sometime. She said great and replied with her tel. I had to go out on a shoot from Monday and just got back on Thursday. Gave her a call and left a voicemail message. So far no call text or email back. She's not closed the OC so not sure how to take this.
- November 6th, 2009, 01:18 pm
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If you mean you just called her yesterday and it's only Friday afternoon then I think there's no reason to be concerned. She's probably working now. Unless she knew you were going to be gone for several days, she might be a little put off that it took you a few days to make the initial call.
- November 6th, 2009, 01:23 pm
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Nah, never told her. She suggested to call her mid week and since I knew I would be back Thursday did not think it was necessary to tell her. Though, I did have to nudge her to move from second questions to OC. Not sure if thats a biggie or not.
- November 6th, 2009, 01:30 pm
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- November 6th, 2009, 10:13 pm
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Since it has only been a day I would not let that be a big worry. However, the fact that you had to nudge her to move from Second Questions that may or may not be a sign. It could be that she is not familiar with the way eHarmony works and that until both sides have exchanged the first OC message that you have to take turns and she may not have known that it was her turn. OR it could be an indication that she is not all that interested in you.

Just some musings on the phone call. To me mid-week means Wednesday. My cell phone works most anywhere in the country where people actually live. You don't call on Thursday because that is too close to the weekend. You don't call on Friday or Saturday because you don't want her to know that you don't have a date for the weekend and she doesn't want you to know that she doesn't have a date for the weekend. You don't call on Sunday because she is getting ready for the coming work week. You don't call on Monday because you are stressed from the start of the work week. You don't call on Tuesday because you have not gotten up the nerve to call. Hey I don't make this stuff up, read it in a book on dating.
- November 7th, 2009, 08:44 am
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Just some musings on the phone call. To me mid-week means Wednesday. My cell phone works most anywhere in the country where people actually live. You don't call on Thursday because that is too close to the weekend. You don't call on Friday or Saturday because you don't want her to know that you don't have a date for the weekend and she doesn't want you to know that she doesn't have a date for the weekend. You don't call on Sunday because she is getting ready for the coming work week. You don't call on Monday because you are stressed from the start of the work week. You don't call on Tuesday because you have not gotten up the nerve to call. Hey I don't make this stuff up, read it in a book on dating.
My head hurts. Is that the reaction you wanted?

A note to the OP. Maybe there is less interest in your posts because you don't seem to be learning anything. I know this is my reaction. You want us to do your homework for you, and that's not fair.
- November 7th, 2009, 11:47 am
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