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theblondeegirl is offline theblondeegirl Post #11  November 5,2009, 6:06pm
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I left eHarmony 3 years ago after meeting my wife there, but I recall there were some that would make me close at MH/CS. Just remember thinking, all those horrible choices, and you picked that?

Then again, any chance your photo comes up at the MH/CS phase? I originally had my photo appear later in the process, but after realizing that was exactly when the match got closed, I put it up front so I could get rid of those women immediately.
No my photos are up front, so that's not it...the guys communicating with me know what I look like...as far as the MHCS, I don't think any of them are out of the ordinary, but who knows, what might be ordinary for one person may not be for someone else.
 
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Wanting to be in love with and attracted to partner IS not shallow. For most people the chemistry and deep down connection is important and that's normal. Nothing shallow about it. You can be deeply in love with and attracted to people who are less than spectacular looking.
 
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To clarify, did you pick--

Attractiveness...I must have a partner who is considered "very attractive" by most current standards.

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Chemistry...I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner.
 
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shapeShifter79 wrote :
To clarify, did you pick--

Attractiveness...I must have a partner who is considered "very attractive" by most current standards.

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Chemistry...I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner.
This thread is from 2009...so for this particular section of asking for help...it's safe to say the OP is not on here anymore seeking answers...
 
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lol @ Ingytravel. Good catch.
 
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shapeShifter79 wrote :
To clarify, did you pick--

Attractiveness...I must have a partner who is considered "very attractive" by most current standards.

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Chemistry...I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner.
Since it's already out there in bump up land...

What's wrong with choosing "chemistry"? I have that on my list. A lot of my matches do, too.
 
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What's wrong with choosing "chemistry"? I have that on my list. A lot of my matches do, too.
Nothing.

"Attractiveness" is a different case and may lose you matches. She mentioned picking an option related to her partner being attractive, so I wanted to know which one of the two she picked.
 
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Since it's already out there in bump up land...

What's wrong with choosing "chemistry"? I have that on my list. A lot of my matches do, too.
Out of those two..I absolutely choose chemistry...I could not care less about how 'attractive' someone is in reference to society or anyone else's standards...if he gives me goosebumps and makes my heart go pitter-patter....DONE
 
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Out of those two..I absolutely choose chemistry...I could not care less about how 'attractive' someone is in reference to society or anyone else's standards...if he gives me goosebumps and makes my heart go pitter-patter....DONE
I'm with you on that one, Ingy! I often say here how I choose dates based on how "attractive" I find them, but that doesn't mean the guy has to be Brad Pitt. He just has to have the "WOW factor" - for me!
 
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