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tommyboy047 is offline tommyboy047 Post #11  November 5,2009, 11:23am
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When I joined eharmony I was not going to initiate communication and see how it goes. Of course if nobody initiated communication with me over time I would start to do it myself but I just wanted to sit back and see what happens. I did not keep a count on how many initiated communication but it was a least 12 in a months time. The girl I have been dating now, going on 9 months, initiated communication with me. Even before I joined, I received communication requests. I was still hesitant on joining till one of them really caught my interest but by the time I joined and replied, she never replied back, don't blame her it was over a month. What can I say, I was not sure I even wanted to join, the commercials and emails is what got me interested in the first place. I did not have a problem meeting women, just did not seem to find the one that totally inspired that romantic side of me. Actually never thought I would have that again but eharmony found me that gal.
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Coca-Cola wrote :
Of course, women should never initiate communication. They should also never leave the house. They should stay in the house all day, clean up, make dinner, raise the kids. Each woman has a man for her and he will come along one day and sweep her off her feet. All she gotta do is be prim and wait.

Never be tired of sitting back and waiting. In eHarmony, a woman's role is to pay the subscription fees month after month after month after month, until this man comes along. In fact, I heard that EH is sorry about putting the "Start Communication" buttons on women's screens and said they will remove them soon.

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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #13  November 5,2009, 11:45am

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Coca-Cola wrote :
Of course, women should never initiate communication. They should also never leave the house. They should stay in the house all day, clean up, make dinner, raise the kids.
I want her!

I do have a (female) friend though who subscribes to EH..kinda unfortunate that she initiated a lot of communication, but only 10% of men responded back...that is just too unfortunate for her. She's active, intelligent and have a good sense of humor...and her Hust Haves are very reasonable (no...don't even say why I don't date her...lol).We did have this discussion about what some women here say about never initiate, etc...I gave her kudos for initiating and told her don't let those inactive matches bring her down.
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PY_2 wrote :
I want her!

I do have a (female) friend though who subscribes to EH..kinda unfortunate that she initiated a lot of communication, but only 10% of men responded back...that is just too unfortunate for her. She's active, intelligent and have a good sense of humor...and her Hust Haves are very reasonable (no...don't even say why I don't date her...lol).We did have this discussion about what some women here say about never initiate, etc...I gave her kudos for initiating and told her don't let those inactive matches bring her down.
10%? Do you know how much better than the average of just about everyone else she is doing? You tell her seriously she is doing great.
The last five matches from several days ago that I initiated with, four have not looked at my profile yet - not even anonymously. The fifth closed me.
 
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10%? Do you know how much better than the average of just about everyone else she is doing? You tell her seriously she is doing great.
The last five matches from several days ago that I initiated with, four have not looked at my profile yet - not even anonymously. The fifth closed me.
wow really?? 10% is good?

I don't remember whether she said they looked at her profile or not...I'll ask her next time I see her!
 
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wow really?? 10% is good?

I don't remember whether she said they looked at her profile or not...I'll ask her next time I see her!
10% is better than good.

It is excellent.
 
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By all means, initiate. Some of us are hopelessly shy and overly cautious; a deadly combination, but a show of interest from someone we're contemplating could be just enough to get us there. I have five ladies in my match list that I would reply to if they initiated, but am not quite there enough to do it myself.
 
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