Advice and Support from Thousands of Users Just Like You

Using eHarmony If you have questions or comments about eHarmony's matching process, post it here. Or, lend your guidance and support to a fellow eHarmony member.

Reply
Page 2 of 2 1 2
 
LinkBack Thread Tools
tommyboy047 tommyboy047 is offline
tommyboy047's Avatar

tommyboy047 back

Quick Study

Join Date: May 2009

Posts: 226

See profile

When I joined eharmony I was not going to initiate communication and see how it goes. Of course if nobody initiated communication with me over time I would start to do it myself but I just wanted to sit back and see what happens. I did not keep a count on how many initiated communication but it was a least 12 in a months time. The girl I have been dating now, going on 9 months, initiated communication with me. Even before I joined, I received communication requests. I was still hesitant on joining till one of them really caught my interest but by the time I joined and replied, she never replied back, don't blame her it was over a month. What can I say, I was not sure I even wanted to join, the commercials and emails is what got me interested in the first place. I did not have a problem meeting women, just did not seem to find the one that totally inspired that romantic side of me. Actually never thought I would have that again but eharmony found me that gal.
Last edited by tommyboy047; November 5th, 2009 at 12:26 pm.
- November 5th, 2009, 12:23 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#11   Reply With Quote
nightling nightling is offline
nightling's Avatar

nightling -- there is pain, there is rain. No one's ever completely sane.

Veteran

Join Date: Sep 2009

Posts: 1,332

See profile

Coca-Cola wrote :
Of course, women should never initiate communication. They should also never leave the house. They should stay in the house all day, clean up, make dinner, raise the kids. Each woman has a man for her and he will come along one day and sweep her off her feet. All she gotta do is be prim and wait.

Never be tired of sitting back and waiting. In eHarmony, a woman's role is to pay the subscription fees month after month after month after month, until this man comes along. In fact, I heard that EH is sorry about putting the "Start Communication" buttons on women's screens and said they will remove them soon.

It's the 1930s, slpinsd, catch up with the times.

We are amused. Five stars for you.
- November 5th, 2009, 12:24 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#12   Reply With Quote
PY_2 PY_2 is offline
PY_2's Avatar

Enthusiast

Join Date: Oct 2009

Posts: 774

See profile

Coca-Cola wrote :
Of course, women should never initiate communication. They should also never leave the house. They should stay in the house all day, clean up, make dinner, raise the kids.
I want her!

I do have a (female) friend though who subscribes to EH..kinda unfortunate that she initiated a lot of communication, but only 10% of men responded back...that is just too unfortunate for her. She's active, intelligent and have a good sense of humor...and her Hust Haves are very reasonable (no...don't even say why I don't date her...lol).We did have this discussion about what some women here say about never initiate, etc...I gave her kudos for initiating and told her don't let those inactive matches bring her down.
Last edited by PY_2; November 5th, 2009 at 12:45 pm. Reason: I just want to add: Coke- you get five stars for being one of the most mysterious, but entertaining posters on the board..
- November 5th, 2009, 12:45 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#13   Reply With Quote
pussinboots pussinboots is offline
pussinboots's Avatar

pussinboots is sitting next to the bearded randy geezer to discuss head transplants

Pacesetter

Join Date: Mar 2009

Posts: 384

See profile

PY_2 wrote :
I want her!

I do have a (female) friend though who subscribes to EH..kinda unfortunate that she initiated a lot of communication, but only 10% of men responded back...that is just too unfortunate for her. She's active, intelligent and have a good sense of humor...and her Hust Haves are very reasonable (no...don't even say why I don't date her...lol).We did have this discussion about what some women here say about never initiate, etc...I gave her kudos for initiating and told her don't let those inactive matches bring her down.
10%? Do you know how much better than the average of just about everyone else she is doing? You tell her seriously she is doing great.
The last five matches from several days ago that I initiated with, four have not looked at my profile yet - not even anonymously. The fifth closed me.
- November 5th, 2009, 01:27 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#14   Reply With Quote
PY_2 PY_2 is offline
PY_2's Avatar

Enthusiast

Join Date: Oct 2009

Posts: 774

See profile

pussinboots wrote :
10%? Do you know how much better than the average of just about everyone else she is doing? You tell her seriously she is doing great.
The last five matches from several days ago that I initiated with, four have not looked at my profile yet - not even anonymously. The fifth closed me.
wow really?? 10% is good?

I don't remember whether she said they looked at her profile or not...I'll ask her next time I see her!
- November 5th, 2009, 03:25 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#15   Reply With Quote

ADVERTISEMENT

pussinboots pussinboots is offline
pussinboots's Avatar

pussinboots is sitting next to the bearded randy geezer to discuss head transplants

Pacesetter

Join Date: Mar 2009

Posts: 384

See profile

PY_2 wrote :
wow really?? 10% is good?

I don't remember whether she said they looked at her profile or not...I'll ask her next time I see her!
10% is better than good.

It is excellent.
- November 9th, 2009, 10:48 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#16   Reply With Quote
KevinMatchstick KevinMatchstick is offline
KevinMatchstick's Avatar

KevinMatchstick ...is wasting time productively.

Newbie

Join Date: Oct 2009

Posts: 17

See profile

By all means, initiate. Some of us are hopelessly shy and overly cautious; a deadly combination, but a show of interest from someone we're contemplating could be just enough to get us there. I have five ladies in my match list that I would reply to if they initiated, but am not quite there enough to do it myself.
- November 9th, 2009, 11:37 pm
Digg this Post!Add Post to del.icio.usBookmark Post in TechnoratiFurl this Post!Share on Facebook

#17   Reply With Quote
Reply
Page 2 of 2 1 2

Bookmarks

« What your pictures say about you | Array | Why does it work this way? »
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Why Successful Women Can't Find a Great Man eharmonyadvice Ask a Dating Expert 573 November 13th, 2009 07:06 pm
For Smart Women ONLY !!! Seneca Dating 72 September 10th, 2009 04:17 pm
A Mars Venus Guide: Dating Do's and Don'ts for Men outlaw1 Dating 55 August 18th, 2009 04:16 am

Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Relax. Have fun. Lilycat” – Lilycat

Join the “always so paranoid” discussion

“I'm not sure if you are ranting or asking something. Were you asking for advice whether to talk to them in Facebook? If yes, then it all boils down to this question: if you saw these ladies on FB ... ” – MMingE

Join the “matches dont respond/their profile says contact them on face book” discussion

“ Although I don't doubt there are men that can be attracted that would not "poof" because of your behavior I would have to say that the fact they don't "poof" is the most damaging evidence of their ... ” – Can_I_just_be_Jo

Join the “Need some advice please...” discussion

“ He knows the abuse wasn't sexual, and he knows I am not gay or bisexual.” – charity8987

Join the “Argh, screwed up with new guy.” discussion

“my dream color is medium red brown with auburn tones” – jtwark

Join the “L'Oréal's 'Find Your Fall Hair Color' Sweepstakes!” discussion

“"Billed in one installment of $239.40" means, "Billed once for $239.40." Pardon me for saying this, but if I had less than $40 in my bank account, buying an eHarmony subscription will be the least ... ” – Coca-Cola

Join the “eHarmony payment plans” discussion

“ Call them!” – Coca-Cola

Join the “FCW - Interesting Problem” discussion

“It appears the OP hasn't participated in EhA since she login and posed her question initially. We all come to these advise boards with so many different backgrounds...in fact I wrote another post on ... ” – RoxyRedhead

Join the “Frustrated & Confused: Is He A Sexual Addict???” discussion



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 05:43 am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2009, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.3.0