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my response reads:

"If I had three wishes 1.) 17 billion dollars 2.) teleportation 3.) ability to turn into a werewolf. The first two are obvious, the third not so much and for the sake of divulgence I feel I should make it known ;P"

good job of weeding out those who would genuinely be put off, a good lead into "what would you wish for" etc. There are so just bland responses to this question. In all cases I try to not have cliches like "I love my family" "I like to walk my dog" "I enjoy friends"
- November 9th, 2009, 02:04 pm
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I like profiles that read like the writer had some fun doing it! So I think this is a reasonable way to go. Maybe add what it is about being a werewolf that appeals to you? Otherwise it could come across as "hey I'm kinda weird! take a chance!" Remember the reader hasn't met you, and may have had some bad dating experiences with guys who, really, were just weird, and not in a good way.
- November 9th, 2009, 02:19 pm
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thefastcat wrote :
my response reads:

"If I had three wishes 1.) 17 billion dollars 2.) teleportation 3.) ability to turn into a werewolf. The first two are obvious, the third not so much and for the sake of divulgence I feel I should make it known ;P"

good job of weeding out those who would genuinely be put off, a good lead into "what would you wish for" etc. There are so just bland responses to this question. In all cases I try to not have cliches like "I love my family" "I like to walk my dog" "I enjoy friends"
Hi Thefastcat,

Now, just to clarify, is this your answer for the Open-Ended Question in the Guided Communication process about what your three wishes would be, or is this your answer for #13 in the About Me page?

Either way, I actually think you achieve the off-center intrigue that you are going for. You may want to drop or alter the last part about “the first two are obvious…” – I don’t know that they are “obvious” (because different people would do different things with the money or the ability to teleport). I think the first two answers are maybe a bit less “scary” than the werewolf answer, however! Of course, I sense that there is a light-hearted tongue-and-cheek sense about this answer that makes the werewolf fun and may make the right kind of matches want to know more.

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- November 9th, 2009, 02:29 pm
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awesome articulation that I would otherwise never think of!

hm when I actually try to practically explain why being a werewolf would be tremendous I am at a lack of words. it just is! hm I will work on a new answer.
- November 9th, 2009, 02:37 pm
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librarybabe wrote :
Anyone who reads my overly long profile responses will be able to conclude that. I'm actually hoping to find someone who will be able to interrupt me occasionally. I begin to feel foolish when I am doing all the talking and the other person is just smiling to himself and nodding. Reminds me of when my Dad use to take me along to get the car fixed so the long walk home from the service station would be entertaining while I regaled him with the wonders of life in Kindergarten. After he told my Mom that I never stopped talking the whole time, I told him he could go by himself next time.
I concur. I talk a LOT. I don't like men who don't get so excited or passionate in conversation that they let me go. I like to ask fun and odd-ball questions too, but I do not fair well with men of few words. Talkative men are usually funnier in my opinion, I love funny.
- November 11th, 2009, 12:17 pm
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Okay, here is my current answer:

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After spending over 9 years in telecom, I am currently going back to school full time to become a History teacher. I've always had a passion for history and working with kids. This past December I lost my job and decided to turn a negative into a positive, and pursue a career that truly interests me.
- November 13th, 2009, 06:24 pm
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Sassafras54 wrote :
I thought of this section like Melman does, initially ... a place to put something that other people would find deal-breaking, that didn't fit elsewhere in the profile. I put something along those lines:

I'm an animal rights person -- just letting you know. Most of my friends don't share my views, and it's never been a problem. When we eat together, they eat meat, and I don't. I'm well-differentiated and can appreciate and accept people who are different from me. Would I marry a meat-eater? ... h'mm, yes, if that were the only thing wrong with him! (haha).

I wasn't having a lot of success making contact with people. So I edited my profile in general, and put (innocuous) job info in this section...

I simultaneously pursued 3 careers: software engineering, body therapist, and whitewater rafting guide. I have wide-ranging interests! and like to find new things to explore. (My Occupation says I'm retired and I didn't mention work anywhere else.)

I'm still not having much success. I really don't understand why I'm getting so little response from matches (and yes, I know all the usual answers re giving it time, unpaid members etc., and yes, I've edited my profile, expanded preferences, etc.)
I actually agree with what melman wrote.. your first response is fine. I disagree with him about the 'marriage' line, though. I thought it was funny, and I definitely appreciate sarcasm. Of the two lines, I would say I am more inclined to request communication with your first response than your second.

With regard to 'sarcasm': please keep in mind that this is coming from someone who answered the same question with a simple, very direct, "Yes."
- November 24th, 2009, 08:47 pm
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One of my matches wrote that he was "deathly allergic to cats". I think that's a good thing to put out there.

You know for all the single women out there who have cats.

Not that I have any.

But my roommate does....
- November 24th, 2009, 09:59 pm
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I think this should be the place to put in things like "I'm thinking of moving out of state," or "I was engaged, but she decided to end it a few days ago without reason" (<- I don't know if this one's common for anyone else, but I've gotten a few of them in the last couple weeks). You know, big, life-defining things. Or specific communication-related issues like "I'm dyslexic and don't write well" or "I don't have internet at home, so my responses may be a little slow."

And just my two-cents, but I don't like the "Ask and find out!" answer on this one. I have no qualms asking if something comes up, but I know so little about you as it is! What am I supposed to be asking? Say something defining, something no one else would say but you, and I'll go from there. Take a risk with me, and I'm more inclined to take a risk with you. "Ask and find out" makes me do all the work, and it's a serious turnoff.
- November 27th, 2009, 04:39 pm
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