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Let us agree not to turn this into yet another income debate, OK?

OK.

When setting my match preferences, I can say for example that I smoke, that I prefer my match smoke or not, and set an importance for that.

I can also set my income level, and I can set "How important is your match's income to you?". But I can't specify what the match's income should be. So what is this preference all about?

If there is an official answer on this, I'd like to know. I can guess that it's only allowing me to say whether it's important or not that my matches have a similar income, but it would be a guess.
- November 3rd, 2009, 07:06 pm
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That was my guess too, Melman.

Same thing for education - I stated my match's education level as very important, assuming all matches would have the same or higher level of education as I do. But I keep getting these functionally illiterate matches who can't tell the difference between there, their and they're... Yesterday I got a great one - Last great book you read? His answer: "can,t read"

Oops - sorry... didn't mean to steal your sunshine - just pointing out another common (and frustrating) issue.
- November 3rd, 2009, 09:14 pm
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This also happens to me with educational level, Gumbee. I have an advanced degree, and education is important to me. However, the demographic dating pool of matches with advanced degrees ends up being smaller. But I'm open to dating others with some college education or a college degree (their social and emotional intelligence and critical thinking level counts more.)

But if I lower my importance level for education, I get matches that write like they flunked grammar school. So I reset my educational level to a bachelor's degree and raised the importance level to high. That seems to get me the right target group.
- November 4th, 2009, 12:07 am
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Gumbee wrote :
That was my guess too, Melman.

Same thing for education - I stated my match's education level as very important, assuming all matches would have the same or higher level of education as I do. But I keep getting these functionally illiterate matches who can't tell the difference between there, their and they're... Yesterday I got a great one - Last great book you read? His answer: "can,t read"

Oops - sorry... didn't mean to steal your sunshine - just pointing out another common (and frustrating) issue.
Not to divert the topic, but I find that there are very few people in this workd that know the difference in these words. To me it is like fingernails on a blackboard. Very irritating!
- November 4th, 2009, 09:20 am
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On this type of question, which also is the same for height. When you set the importance to Very Important then you should get only matches whose income is in the same range as you. Or for education has a similar degree to you. For height is within an inch or two of your height.

Using income as the example if you make $20,000 per year and have set the importance to Very Important you are not going to be getting matched to people who are making $250,000. For education if you have a BS and have the set it to Very Important then you are not going to be matched to people with PhDs.

Of course if you put something more toward the Somewhat Important then you are going to be getting matched to people who make less or have not finished high school, etc.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:27 am
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Gumbee wrote :
That was my guess too, Melman.

Same thing for education - I stated my match's education level as very important, assuming all matches would have the same or higher level of education as I do. But I keep getting these functionally illiterate matches who can't tell the difference between there, their and they're... Yesterday I got a great one - Last great book you read? His answer: "can,t read"

Oops - sorry... didn't mean to steal your sunshine - just pointing out another common (and frustrating) issue.
No, no, I have "Functionally illiterate, can't read"

Me thinks this was your match's attempt at humor.
- November 4th, 2009, 09:28 am
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Thanks for the tip, Shelby, I've been having the same problem. Will try your approach.

Melman, I hope an eH host answers. And also explains how the "education" preference works.
- November 4th, 2009, 10:02 am
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OK so I just went and set my degree to Bachelors and importance to one notch below the highest, and ran "find new matches", and got ... no new matches.

Sigh. I live in LA. There are 15 million people within 60 miles of me. I just don't get it.
- November 4th, 2009, 10:07 am
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You can't move your sliders and hit "Find New Matches" right away. Actually I'm not really sure why "Find New Matches" even exists. As far as I know, your new matches are set up during the night when Dr. eH's Magic Computer runs its database search.
- November 4th, 2009, 06:56 pm
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Sass, Melman is correct. Give it some time for the EH algorithms to re-run.

LA should have lots of bright educated people but unfortunately they are demographically dwarfed by the influx of wannabees with "their/there/they're" insane focus on surface attributes and equally inane fascination with all things Hollywood, skewed by the media focus on celebrity as a professional goal. I feel for you.
- November 4th, 2009, 07:57 pm
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