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Most likely she's not avoiding a phone call because of privacy concerns, but probably because she doesn't find talking on the phone with a stranger very helpful and would rather jump from email straight to an in-person meeting...it's just a preference thing.

I'd just write back that you can't do Saturday but would like to get together and suggest an alternate time...I think I'd go with Sunday evening over Saturday morning personally.
- November 4th, 2009, 01:07 pm
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Maybe. However, I suggest a little coffee shop only 20 miles away from her and she said its a bit too far from her. I found another one closer, but it seems she's looking into jumping into a full fledged date over an initial meeting. At least that is what it seems. Plus, not really sure I want to drive all the way over to her town from mine. Its about 30 miles or so.
- November 4th, 2009, 01:14 pm
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What's wrong with going on a date?

As for the distance issue, while I have my own opinion on what's reasonable, the bottom line is that you'll have to decide for yourself how far you're wiling to go to pursue someone.
- November 4th, 2009, 02:01 pm
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Maybe. However, I suggest a little coffee shop only 20 miles away from her and she said its a bit too far from her. I found another one closer, but it seems she's looking into jumping into a full fledged date over an initial meeting. At least that is what it seems. Plus, not really sure I want to drive all the way over to her town from mine. Its about 30 miles or so.
Personally I don't like driving much, so driving 20 miles for a coffee meet does seem a bit far. Why not just go for a regular date if one/both of you are taking the effort to meet? Or maybe you can just drive to her town if you are set on the coffee date. I didn't quite get your post.. You say 20 miles is near enough but 30 miles is too far?
- November 4th, 2009, 02:20 pm
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Usually meeting in the middle is best; in my opinion. On all my dates, this would be the first that I met before even getting a number. What happens if someone needs to cancel at the last moment?

Do you really think she has much interest if, after like 5 e-mails (five to her five to me) she's really that interested? Been chatting for three weeks Friday. Just a bit taken back with the no number.
- November 4th, 2009, 02:41 pm
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You might need to look into the context of how email communications have been and does she otherwise seem an ok person. Did you give her your ph number? You can ask hers to reach just in case of emergency. Some people might not be into phone chat. The current guy I am dating is not a phone person, so before first date we just exchanged numbers to have in case we have trouble locating the place or some emergency comes up.
- November 4th, 2009, 03:03 pm
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Always upbeat and a few paragraphs each way. Here's how she put her last e-mail:

It would be great if we could meet this weekend. I really think meeting in person is much better than talking on the phone. Mom is recouping from surgery so I can't leave her for the amount of time it would take to get to the city. If you still up in meeting in irregardless of this slight complication, I'd be happy to meet you this weekend. Actually, Saturday night would really be best.

Think about it and let me know your thoughts.
- November 4th, 2009, 03:13 pm
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Mom is recouping from surgery so I can't leave her for the amount of time it would take to get to the city.
Dude, if I were you I would show some compassion by driving further her way in her situation.

I don't know if I like this "irregardless" thing though
- November 4th, 2009, 03:35 pm
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Dude, if I were you I would show some compassion by driving further her way in her situation.

I don't know if I like this "irregardless" thing though

Interesting observation on the compassion part. But what does that have to do with a phone number before meeting?

I don't write the e-mails, just paste em. :/
- November 4th, 2009, 03:39 pm
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Dude, if I were you I would show some compassion by driving further her way in her situation.
+1

Just make sure you are comfortable with this and don't turn to resentment in case things don't go well. Good luck!
- November 4th, 2009, 03:42 pm
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