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nancymargritangelita is offline nancymargritangelita Post #41  November 3,2009, 3:10pm
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pussinboots wrote :
Read them again, please. I never said I was being attacked - my posts were [for not understanding what I wrote].

You also must have missed the words "grouch", "ridiculous" and "bizarre".
No I didn't miss any of them. My G*d - if I was to get upset every time someone used these words on me I'd be in the grave already.

I'm out of here.

Lighten up and good luck with your matches.
 
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I haven't read this thread but, oh my god, Pussinboots - what is up with the wonderfully disturbing avatar? Is she your 'special' girlfriend? Does she have a brother my age? And where can I get a dress like that?!!
 
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Let's keep away from the personal digs and name-calling, folks -- if you feel someone's violationg our Standards -- report, don't reply.

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Honest, Lori, I think the 'special' friend is pretty and I love her dress. Not meant as an insult at all. Sorry to have offended!
 
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Honest, Lori, I think the 'special' friend is pretty and I love her dress. Not meant as an insult at all. Sorry to have offended!
I'm pretty sure Lori is not referring to you. After I have dinner, I'll see if I can remember where I found that avatar - it's on one of two sites - and pass along the info. Where on the East Coast are you? You can pm me if you like.
 
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ScottK wrote :
Manners?

I view it as they just don't think you are a good Match.

No problem, I understand. I hope your EHarmony search goes well, and you find what you are looking for. I would hope they feel the same for me.
Thus, "Good luck with your search".

I suppose if you live your life with the view of the glass half empty, it is always rejection at its core.

I suppose you don't see any use in saying Please and Thank You anymore either?

Whats the point, right?
Especially Thank You. Its "after the fact", so it doesn't gain you anything, right?

Yet, I say Thank You all the time.
Why?
Because I like to treat people how I would be liked to be treated.

Scott, you and I usually agree on a lot of things. I guess we will disagree on this one.

For the record, I am one that uses please and thank you often. I agree that manners are important.

I just don't see it as impolite to not wish someone luck who has no interest in me at all. In fact, I am willing to bet that a last little note from me would be annoying to them.

The point of this thread is that the OP wonders why when someone wishes you "good luck" the message that appears in your inbox where you receive all of your notifications says, "A match has sent you a re-open request."
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Scott, you and I usually agree on a lot of things. I guess we will disagree on this one.

For the record, I am one that uses please and thank you often. I agree that manners are important.

I just don't see it as impolite to not wish someone luck who has no interest in me at all. In fact, I am willing to bet that a last little note from me would be annoying to them.

The point of this thread is that the OP wonders why when someone wishes you "good luck" the message that appears in your inbox where you receive all of your notifications says, "A match has sent you a re-open request."
I so much agree with your quote [except Scott and I don't usually post in the same thread] - finally someone who really gets what I was saying.
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Scott, you and I usually agree on a lot of things. I guess we will disagree on this one.

For the record, I am one that uses please and thank you often. I agree that manners are important.

I just don't see it as impolite to not wish someone luck who has no interest in me at all. In fact, I am willing to bet that a last little note from me would be annoying to them.

The point of this thread is that the OP wonders why when someone wishes you "good luck" the message that appears in your inbox where you receive all of your notifications says, "A match has sent you a re-open request."
Thank you so much for making everything even clearer.
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I apologize for being a grouch yesterday - grouchiness happens to the best of us.

I just wanted to say that I've never had the option to reopen a match with the "good luck with your search" reason. This reason usually comes up after the guy has closed on me and I usually close the match with the "good luck" reason. I've never had the ability to reopen the match after he's closed it. It's just part of everyday politeness and courtesy.

When I close a match, no one ever replies to my closures and I always assumed that it's a male thing not to respond to my closures. After reading this thread though, I can see that some men use this response - it's just not the ones that I've been dealing with up til now

No response shows more about the match than it does about me so I move on and don't worry about it.
 
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