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CaptCrunch23 wrote :
True.. They cannot see our smiling faces!

So rather than pay to see. Some people choose to argue over who sends a picture first. Well at least according to this thread they are..
That explains a lot. I had a guy in communication - my question for him was why did he join EH and his reply was that he didn't - he was just here for the Free Weekend and then he added his email.

I was confused about him because he said he can't stand overweight people, and my pictures are recent and reflect that I am overweight- and I even mentioned it in my profile. So, he couldn't see my pictures. hmmm.

I'm wondering how many women he contacted last weekend?

On the plus side, I guess my profile is interesting!
- November 4th, 2009, 09:46 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Are you local to each other?

Why not meet? Unless you are paying, he is taking all the risk.
The risk? Of what spending a few bucks on a meal? The real risk is the likely hood of finding yourself having to spend an evening with someone you have zero interest in and wishing you were home or anywhere but on this blind date.
- November 5th, 2009, 09:07 pm
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beentherehavetee wrote :
OK here's the situation:
Say you've been communicating with someone. You get to open communication and the person wants a pic. You do too. You exchange emails. You didn't send yours immediately as you were busy. Hey, there are other things going on in life. Guy sends you can email saying, "Hey, did you send something because I didn't get an email with your picture.." You reply back that you will- give you time, but he has your email and can send you one in the meantime.

So, a day later, you are busy, you haven't sent the email. And neither has he. So, you say to yourself that he is waiting for you to send your pic so he can do the selecting- which doesn't seem fair. A week goes by and no picture. You don't send yours because you feel if he's sincere he could send you one in the meantime.

Get the picture? No pun intended here...or maybe...

So, in the meantime, no picture has been exchanged from either party and no further communication has ensued.

Maybe this is a lesson in communication skills.....

Has this happened to anyone else?
I think that this one is on you.

You sent an e-mail that was expected to have a pic & it oddly was missing.

The mere fact that you sent the first e-mail after photo request IMO puts that burden on you just a bit more than him.

I have never experienced the petty nature of that standoff.

Why don't you go with your initial plan of sending a photo at your convenience?? Why would you hold it back?
- November 5th, 2009, 09:20 pm
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