Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #1  October 29,2009, 7:59am
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I just got this question from a new match and it got me thinking (and you all know that is never a good thing ).

How much ongoing stress do you have in your life?
A) I have almost no stress in my life.
B) I have a small amount of ongoing stress.
C) I have a fairly high level of constant stress.
D) I have a very stressful life.

What is this question really asking? I rarely have ever been asked this question before and have always viewed that it was asking do I have a high stress job. But today as I was answering it I got to thinking is this really a round about way of asking if there are issues with an ex that are ongoing.

What think ye, all you gurus? If you asked this question what are you trying to find out?
 
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I agree, it's an odd question, and the answer won't tell you much of anything since one person's hurricane is another's nice little breeze.

I've never used it, but I might if there was something in the profile that led me to wonder if this was a high-anxiety person.
 
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Hi Gr8guy2008,

I think with these questions the “asker” is always concerned about the issue one way or another, but there’s no guessing from what angle. For example, she could be trying to feel out how much anxiety you feel you have, or she could be trying to figure out what kind of intensity to expect in getting to know you and participating in your lifestyle, or – she could even be trying to feel out how you would feel about stress because she has a lot of stress in her life.

I know it’s kind of natural to try and figure out what she’s looking for, but if you answer the question based on your own perception of your life, you know you can’t go wrong. I would say this – I don’t think it’s just about a job. Occupation is just one area of life. Someone could have a breezy job and be dealing with stress with family, social life, finances, etc.

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i always thought of it in terms of high-demand career too.
 
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Some of us are just way to inquisitive for our own good and wonder about these sort of things

You aren't a First Born are you?
 
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I’ve never asked this one.

Like you, when I received it I just assumed it meant work-related (and economic.) Since I don’t have children or ‘ex-issues,” that is really the only basis for me to answer it.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
what are you trying to find out?
If you like chicken!


I've never been asked nor have asked it. I would think that A&D would be bad choices though. This is one of those questions I might answer with a silly response of my own..

'I live stress free ,but trying to answer this question has given me stress!'
Last edited by CaptCrunch23; October 29,2009 at 4:51pm. Reason: or something stupid like that!
 
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I've been asked it, and assumed it relate to life overall, not just a high-demand career. Don't like it much, as a GC question. As an OC question, though, with no restrictions on the answer, it's reasonable, given some greater context.
 
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I never ask this one. I've been asked this and wrote in an answer. I think the question encompasses life overall, work and personal.
 
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I've gotten this one. And I didn't like it. I used the last box for a custom answer. I probably said something like:

I push my limits occasionally. I like a challenge and enjoy some of the excitement that goes along with it.

It doesn't directly answer the question but it's an answer that let's them get to know me better.

I don't answer "me lose" questions.
 
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