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rwmorrisonjr is offline rwmorrisonjr Post #1  October 28,2009, 8:17pm
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I'm new to EH and have a question regarding FT/OC. I responded to someone who's profile I liked and wanted FT. She accepted FT but didn't send a reply email. How long should I wait to send her a second email as a follow up? She accepted my FT request this morning, so its been less than 24 hours, but I thought she would've sent a reply when she accepted so we could start communication. Any thoughts or advice are welcome since this is new to me.
 
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Woah, give her some more time. Some people may have time to read a communication, but writing back can take much longer. She's probably waiting for when she has more time.

I've never been a big fan of sending a second message if the first one hadn't gone answered, but you should at least wait a few days, maybe a week.
 
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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #3  October 28,2009, 8:33pm
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Less than 24 hours and you're already complaining she hasn't sent a reply yet? Ummm... ever think she has a job and other responsibilities to attend to, also?

Give her at least a few days, dude.

Also.... did your initial message give her something to go on? Something to reply to? Something substantial? If all a guy said was "Hi. Ask me anything." or something equally as short and non-informative, I would probably never answer.
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Also.... did your initial message give her something to go on? Something to reply to? Something substantial? If all a guy said was "Hi. Ask me anything." or something equally as short and non-informative, I would probably never answer.
Thats why I don't do FT. I like GC because at least then it might give you something to talk about when you reach OC.
 
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Had a similar situation. Sped fast through to OC. Sent an e-mail, never heard back. Waiting about a 8 days, then closed out cause of no communication. Weird. I've never seen so many FLAKES in my life! Why waste my time if you are not going to bother to reply?
 
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I am convinced that many people (men and women, no doubt) play eH like some kind of video game. No intention of ever meeting anyone.
 
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I am a bit unsure of the sequence of events here.

If she sent you a FT request then there should have been a message attached to the request for you to respond to.

If she had as her preferred method of communication Fast Track then when you sent the FT request you should have sent a message to her as part of the request.

I have only done the FT route a couple of times but I believe that when you accept a FT request it takes you to the OC where you can write your response. I do find it unusual to accept FT and not send a message at the same time. However, there are many people who do not understand how the eHarmony process works and your match may not realize that it is her turn to send a message. In this situation I would wait a day or two and then send another message.
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
Less than 24 hours and you're already complaining she hasn't sent a reply yet? Ummm... ever think she has a job and other responsibilities to attend to, also?

Give her at least a few days, dude.

Also.... did your initial message give her something to go on? Something to reply to? Something substantial? If all a guy said was "Hi. Ask me anything." or something equally as short and non-informative, I would probably never answer.
Once again.. I have to agree with the invisible jet owner!

I'm confused on why so many people are getting ticked off for not getting a response back within an hour or even days. I can see where it's frustrating if it's weeks, but really a few days! learn some patience!
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I am a bit unsure of the sequence of events here.

If she sent you a FT request then there should have been a message attached to the request for you to respond to.

If she had as her preferred method of communication Fast Track then when you sent the FT request you should have sent a message to her as part of the request.

I have only done the FT route a couple of times but I believe that when you accept a FT request it takes you to the OC where you can write your response. I do find it unusual to accept FT and not send a message at the same time. However, there are many people who do not understand how the eHarmony process works and your match may not realize that it is her turn to send a message. In this situation I would wait a day or two and then send another message.
Thanks, this is the type of response I was looking for. I did send her a message and she stated that she preferred FT in her profile, that's why I selected it. I'll just sit tight and give it a couple of days, which is what I was leaning toward anyhow.

I didn't realize that I'd open such a can of worms by asking this. I'm trying to learn my way around EH and how to use it properly, so this has been a learning experience for me!
 
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Wonderwomen said "Dude"...

I did the FT once, by mistake, because I was new to EH and was not sure of how to use it and, for that matter, what FT was anyway. I explained to her why the FT and she totally understood and we continued from that point. She did mention a few times during OC about wishing we went through GC but that did not stop us at all. We are going on 9 months now. We can talk about that FT/OC/GC thing during our get away next weekend, NOT! lol. Next weekend is our first attempt to find our special getaway place, reservations are made and the place has all the necessities we look for in that "special place".
 
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