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Gumbee wrote :
One I'd like to see stricken from the list is "I'd rather not say".
I think they should keep that one.
- October 29th, 2009, 01:43 pm
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I vote for adding "profile incomplete" and changing "never responded to communication" to "hasn't responded to last communication".

I don't mind "Other".

I liked the suggestion above of being able to cite a specific profile section. If I got a lot of closes all citing the same profile section I'd reconsider what I put there.
- October 29th, 2009, 02:11 pm
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Citing which About Me section it was…I missed that. Thanks Sassafras54, I think that’s a good one. And thanks for putting in your “vote”.

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- October 29th, 2009, 03:12 pm
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I, for one, could not care less about why someone did not respond to my communication. That is their business.

Would you change yourself or your style to be more appealing to potential dates or to avoid rejection? Is acceptance that important in your value system?

Those who want input on their profile have access to the forum intended for that purpose (rather than second guessing why anonymous people do not respond).
- October 29th, 2009, 03:51 pm
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cardguy wrote :
It'd be nice if there was a "profile was not complete" option.
That's the biggest one in my book, considering what a big deal
EH makes about it.
- October 29th, 2009, 04:17 pm
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JDavid wrote :
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I, for one, could not care less about why someone did not respond to my communication. That is their business.

Would you change yourself or your style to be more appealing to potential dates or to avoid rejection? Is acceptance that important in your value system?

Those who want input on their profile have access to the forum intended for that purpose (rather than second guessing why anonymous people do not respond).
That is, of course, fine for you. It's not necessary, though, to belittle those who feel differently. One thing that I have learned from reading these boards is that it is quite common for people to take the reasons cited for closure quite personally, especially when they are new subscribers.

Although the boards here are certainly a valuable resource for many of those who access them, I expect that only a small minority of eH subscribers visit them regularly (or even, "ever"), or understand that they can seek feedback on their profiles here for free (vs. the paid profile service that eH now has).

So, however eH decides to revise the reasons for closing matches (assuming they do), they will need to consider the fact that this is a part of the process about which many people are especially sensitive...
- October 29th, 2009, 04:19 pm
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tweet37 wrote :
I think they should keep that one.
I agree here also, it sort of implies it's something "bad," when they could just put other. Most of the time I put other, it's just because it's at the bottom of the page, and the person didn't fill out the profile all the way, so it wasn't worth reading what exactly I didn't like.
- October 29th, 2009, 04:19 pm
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grlnxtdr wrote :
How about modifying the "I feel there is no chemistry" which implies that you have already met the person to " I don't find you attractive based on your photo" or something of that sort. It probably needs to be more P.C. than that, but the fact is if do not find that person attractive at all based on a photo, I think it is a valid reason to close a person. I would not be hurt if someone put that as a reason for closing me, it is just a fact of life we should have all learned in Junior High.
There's already an option that says "based on the statements in this profile, I'm not interested in this match." What I'd like to know is exactly what is it about my statements that makes you uninterested? Is there a way of changing things that would attract more interest among my matches?
- October 29th, 2009, 04:51 pm
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JDavid wrote :
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I, for one, could not care less about why someone did not respond to my communication. That is their business.

Would you change yourself or your style to be more appealing to potential dates or to avoid rejection? Is acceptance that important in your value system?

Those who want input on their profile have access to the forum intended for that purpose (rather than second guessing why anonymous people do not respond).
The only reason we're on eHarmony is to find acceptance. If this acceptance process can be made easier and quicker then so much the better.
- October 29th, 2009, 04:54 pm
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Top ten lines (give these to Letterman).
  1. What was eHarmony thinking?! Seriously; I triathlon train and they match me up with people that are twice my size .
  2. Profile incomplete. If you're not going to do it right, don't bother.
  3. Is that my match or her mother? Flew out to Milwaulkee to find a woman that looked ten years older than me and 15 years older than her photo.
  4. Which one is the dog? Yeah; that's mean, but try at least one photo of you dressed up.
  5. Your photos are ten years old. Refer to #3.
  6. I don't want to be paying your bills too... get a real job. You don't have a real job, both must contribute with today's economy.
  7. Your a life coach? Saw an interview of a guy on "Nightline" saying he is an unemployeed (Life Coach).
  8. You don't like pets? I'm a dog person but will accept cats.
  9. I prefer a match that is a Philly Sports fan. GO PHILLIES!!! GO EAGLES!!! GO FLYERS!!! GO SIXERS!!!
  10. This match has too many issues. I get it; you're a "Born Agian". OR You've had a hard life.
- October 29th, 2009, 05:31 pm
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