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True...okay, that sounds mean. Can that idea. But there are so many variables...How bout "I am not as big of a Star Treck fan as you are"? Maybe we should just stick to "other," because it kinda covers all the other stuff that does not appeal to you about that person without being mean.
Actually no that would be just as mean. Its like someone telling you that your a geek and she don't date geeks. I wouldn't want that response.
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Your probably right melman, I expect to do what I suggested won't happen.

Still I had one select the Must Haves/Can't Stand answer and we had not even reached that stage, shoot neither of us had sent first questions yet. So having that reason for closing doesn't make any sense to me really at least not that early.
 
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Actually no that would be just as mean. Its like someone telling you that your a geek and she don't date geeks. I wouldn't want that response.
That's my point. Some of the reasons people would give if they were able to write in whatever they wanted would be really mean or inappropriate. There is no way they could put every reason down on the canned responses, there has to be an "Other" option, because if there is no "other" option then some of the reasons for closing someone out will not apply unless you want to start being mean about it.
 
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One I'd like to see stricken from the list is "I'd rather not say".
 
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neardc wrote :
Oh; I agree that's an important goal! (And, I've never "not" reviewed a match myself...) But, there must be a way to accomplish both goals (i.e., reviewing all matches while making the closing process more efficient). I will stay tuned.

One thing I'll add.... As you consider options to add, I think it's also important to think about options to drop. There are already a lot of options to screen, some of which seem to clutter the page more than provide useful choices. I hope that eH will take a close look at how frequently options are actually endorsed and think about dropping those that are used least often (those then legitimately fall into the "other" category), rather than simply making the list still longer. That would also make the closing process a bit more efficient.
You’ve definitely got a point there, Neardc, about dropping some of the options. That’s also being looked at. Actually, that would be another new topic...

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And that's the problem. Most of the more "informative" answers are going to run the risk of being more hurtful. I don't like pets, I don't like kids, your pictures made me cry. Would you want to be the eH employee that maintains this list and listens to all the complaints?

I think replacing "Other" with "Good luck" is enough of a solution.
I think this is on the right track and what Wonderwoman402 said about “softening” the closure with some kind of positive remark. That’s why I really do like the Final Message “Good luck in your search.” It's not really necessarily implying that you want to re-open, but there's an openness and a kindness conveyed through sending it, even though it is preselected.

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I don't know how many software developers eH has, but I'll bet it's not many.
They have more than a few.

According to the VP for engineering and operations last September, in an interview with ComputerWorld, they have 40 engineers in LA, and 40 developers "based at various Eastern European firms".

The Technology department (Tech-QA, Tech-Sys Admin and Tech-Development) has 8 job openings right now.

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Let's not get too far off-topic, but I'm sure most of their engineers are not developers or interface designers. System admin, server management, and IT maintenance folks are not going to re-implement code that basically works. They will band-aid things that break and that's it.
 
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I was shocked to discover that 'other' was an option for closing out a match. How lame is that. I'm a new member and just thought it was rude and so not part of what I thought this would be about. I'd rather somebody lie (like in the real dating world) and say something, anything, other than 'other'. Even something like 'no reason' or 'I'm pursuing other matches, good luck'. I can't remember all the other choices now but this selection is insulting to the process of e-harmony and I hope it's eliminated. I can see you have to get a tough skin pretty fast in this game so after my initial shock I just laughed at it and the guy who sent it. My message to him is 'I'm pursuing other matches, good luck'.
 
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I wish there was an option that sent a link to one of the Profile threads, or maybe triggered eHa to send the person an email of Profile Hints & Tips. It would be a nicer way of saying, "Wow, your profile makes you sound like a serial killer..." Maybe it could take "Based on the information in their profile", "no photo", and "incomplete profile" as sub-choices, that you could select after you select whatever the one to send profile help, like this:


- Profile confusing or missing information:
- Information unclear
- No photo
- Incomplete profile


ETA: Maybe the Closed message itself could include the Profile Help? Like, "Blankity-Blank closed this match. Here are some profile hints that might help you with future matches..."
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