Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #1  October 27,2009, 8:48pm
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shed some light on this puzzle? Particularly the girls.

I keep getting asked this question: "How often do you find yourself laughing?"

Recently every match that communicates with me asks this question. And I don't mean it seems like most, I mean EVERY single one. Now I understand that humor in life is important but what are you (they) trying to determine? Anyone (and I know you are out there) that asks this question (particularly the girls) what are you trying to determine. Are you looking to only date the class clown? Are your jokes lame so you are trying to find someone that will laugh at your jokes? Or is there some sort of hidden meaning to your asking this question? Was there an article in Cosmo that said that you should ask this question?
 
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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #2  October 27,2009, 8:55pm

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one simple reason is: it is one of the less deep or accusing questions. Some of them seem too serious or person for such early communications.

Sometimes it's best to stick with the lighter side because some of the questions come off as too serious or accusing (i.e. how close are you with family? What would you do for me after a hard day? Gender roles...etc)
 
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LOL! Thanks for asking this question. I am one of the girls who used to ask this question. For me, what I'm looking for out of this question is that you don't take yourself too seriously, that you're able to joke around and even laugh at yourself at times. I'm also trying to find out that you're a generally happy person and happy-go-lucky. Laughter is good for the soul and I've heard that it's good for the health to laugh often. And yes, my jokes can be pretty bad.

I'm not looking for you to be the class clown, on the other hand. I'd doubt that's what anyone's looking for, but hey -- someone for everyone, right?
 
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I'm trying to get an indicator of how seriously you take life.

I like to laugh. I try not to get too serious about things. So, my humour gets a tad dark sometimes. Not everyone appreciates this.

I can get very serious if I need to. But I prefer to laugh.
 
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Hmmm....maybe your profile is as sober as some of your advice. I find you are not as lighthearted as some of the other males posting here.

Obviously the question could be read many ways. A good sense of humor is a valuable asset since no one wants to go on a "heavy" first date where you are discussing all the ailments of the world or trapped on a date with someone who has the personality of a potato.

Subconsciously....it's nice to be around people with a good sense of humor...especially if you are nervous about meeting new people and as "flawed" as the female species perceives themselves to be....a man with a jovial spirit is less likely to be yet another person "judging us".


 
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Yes, I'm guilty of asking this quite often. In first questions, I like to stick to the lighter side. Another reason is because I want to gauge my match's sense of humor (be sure he has one!). I have a pretty good sense of humor and joke around a lot, so if my match is very serious, we're not going to get on that well if we make it to OC or ..gasp!...meet in person.
 
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But there have been many threads about how subjective humor is. I might think I have a sparkling sense of humor, but you may find it incomprehensible or unbearably mean.

And regarding the question, a person with a good sense of humor and a relaxed attitude doesn't really have to go around chuckling and yukking it up all day long.

I much prefer the fact-based non-baggage questions. Do you enjoy your job, are you punctual, etc. The subjective stuff (humor, attractiveness) has to wait till a face to face meeting.
 
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So, Gr8Guyn2008, it looks like your answer should be:
D) I'm generally a pretty serious person
 
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Mangosteen wrote :
LOL! Thanks for asking this question. I am one of the girls who used to ask this question. For me, what I'm looking for out of this question is that you don't take yourself too seriously, that you're able to joke around and even laugh at yourself at times. I'm also trying to find out that you're a generally happy person and happy-go-lucky. Laughter is good for the soul and I've heard that it's good for the health to laugh often. And yes, my jokes can be pretty bad.

I'm not looking for you to be the class clown, on the other hand. I'd doubt that's what anyone's looking for, but hey -- someone for everyone, right?
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I'm trying to get an indicator of how seriously you take life.

I like to laugh. I try not to get too serious about things. So, my humour gets a tad dark sometimes. Not everyone appreciates this.

I can get very serious if I need to. But I prefer to laugh.
What they said......Can and will you make me smile and laugh.......Personally a man that can make me smile and laugh will keep my interest piqued .
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
shed some light on this puzzle? Particularly the girls.

I keep getting asked this question: "How often do you find yourself laughing?"

Recently every match that communicates with me asks this question. And I don't mean it seems like most, I mean EVERY single one. Now I understand that humor in life is important but what are you (they) trying to determine? Anyone (and I know you are out there) that asks this question (particularly the girls) what are you trying to determine. Are you looking to only date the class clown? Are your jokes lame so you are trying to find someone that will laugh at your jokes? Or is there some sort of hidden meaning to your asking this question? Was there an article in Cosmo that said that you should ask this question?
I choose this question for the two reasons mentioned above... The question isn't too heavy, it's a first round of question not the Spanish Inquisition, some of the choices just need to wait!

I also love to laugh, I'm known for my sense of humor. Now, I have my serious moments, but, I try to find humor in every situation, and prefer to view things with a lighter perspective... I can't date anyone that doesn't have a sense of humor or is too serious about everything.
 
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