zaq is offline zaq Post #1  October 27,2009, 8:35am
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New to the site, I am wondering about some things and cannot find the information on the site. I'm hoping that someone here might be in a position to clarify these things for me; please forgive me if a question seems dumb or if its answer is obvious:

1. I have been matched with women that are quite far from my location boundaries. Is this a matching 'glitch', or are women seeing men's profiles and selecting them at will, despite location?

2. I became overwhelmed when there were suddenly too many women on my communicating list, so I closed the new ones with the reason "other" - in this instance meaning 'it's me not you', since I cannot handle too many - and later on as the communicating list dwindles I may prefer to review the closed profiles. So here are the questions: 1. How should I respond to a great profile when overwhelmed and 2, is there a process to reopen the closed profiles later on?

3. How much time should elapse in a frozen communication process before I take the next step, and what should the next step be?
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #2  October 27,2009, 9:09am
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Dude, turn the matching off once you've reached your comfort level. Once you've gone through and closed your present matches, or they close you out, you can turn the matching back on when things slow down. Don't close matches just for the h3ll of it. You're going to need those matches later, trust me.

Edit: What do you consider as 'overwhelmed'? Having 10 matches in some stage of communication at any given time is not too many. Most of them will 'poof', close you out, or you will close them.
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tweet37 wrote :
Dude, turn the matching off once you've reached your comfort level. Once you've gone through and closed your present matches, or they close you out, you can turn the matching back on when things slow down. Don't close matches just for the h3ll of it. You're going to need those matches later, trust me.

Edit: What do you consider as 'overwhelmed'? Having 10 matches in some stage of communication at any given time is not too many. Most of them will 'poof', close you out, or you will close them.

Yeah just like this, if you have like 5 matches and you're good with that just shut off matching. Don't close them out. I had one match I got on the first of October and was about to close it after a long while but they messaged me after a while and hopefully it might lead to something great. We're talking now through email and on the phone already so you never know. Just be patient.
 
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