FatboyRider52 is offline FatboyRider52 Post #1  October 26,2009, 6:31pm
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Howdy,

I'm new to Eharmony and I am trying to figure out the right way to go about using this site. Are you supposed to send an icebreaker first? I've been sending questions out to matches and it just seems like something I wouldn't do in a room full of people. Can you imagine a rando person walking up to you and asking, "What do you do on Saturday night?".

Any tips would be appreciated.
 
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RobTX1 is offline RobTX1 Post #2  October 26,2009, 7:53pm
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I used to send questions right off the bat and usually I think some of the people didn't like it or something and just closed it. I tend now to send Icebreakers to get their attention and if they don't close you then send questions.
 
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Since icebreakers are the only form of communication that can be sent by non-paying members, many will assume you are not a paid member if you send one.

Personally, I send an icebreaker if their profile is not completely filled out... the one that says something along the lines of "You seem interesting, please fill out more of the 'about me' portion of your profile." If they never do and never look at you, they're probably not a paid member and it's safe to close them out.

Otherwise, if I'm interested I will just send the first questions. It's very little effort, and why beat around the bush with an icebreaker first?
 
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FatboyRider52 wrote :
Howdy,

I'm new to Eharmony and I am trying to figure out the right way to go about using this site. Are you supposed to send an icebreaker first? I've been sending questions out to matches and it just seems like something I wouldn't do in a room full of people. Can you imagine a rando person walking up to you and asking, "What do you do on Saturday night?".

Any tips would be appreciated.
No!
If you are a paying member, do not send IceBreakers!

Just go ahead and send first questions to any Match you would like to get to know.

The first questions should be considered a:
"Hello, I would like to get to know you. Here are a couple small icebreaker questions to find out if you would like to get to know me too".

This is why you should ask "easy" questions for those first questions. You aren't trying to sneak out the deal breakers yet. Use the first questions as a way to find out if they are there and are interested.

IceBreakers are not needed on EHarmony. The first set of questions ARE the icebreakers.

Also, keep in mind, that unpaid members can send IceBreakers. This means that your potential matches might mistake you for a non-paying member if you send IceBreakers.

ICEBREAKERS = JUST DON'T DO IT!
 
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In deciding how to contact a match I would look at what method of eH communication that match preferred.(You can see this on their profile)

If a match prefers guided communication, I wouldn't send a fast track request and vice versa.. Personally I don't use the Icebreakers. I think they are a waste sending and receiving them. I would always send my matches the 1st questions, unless they send them to me first!

You also need to consider that a large majority of your matches are going to be non-paying members who can't respond.. no! there is no real way to know from the get go.
 
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RobTX1 is offline RobTX1 Post #6  October 26,2009, 11:07pm
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ScottK wrote :
No!
If you are a paying member, do not send IceBreakers!

Just go ahead and send first questions to any Match you would like to get to know.

The first questions should be considered a:
"Hello, I would like to get to know you. Here are a couple small icebreaker questions to find out if you would like to get to know me too".

This is why you should ask "easy" questions for those first questions. You aren't trying to sneak out the deal breakers yet. Use the first questions as a way to find out if they are there and are interested.

IceBreakers are not needed on EHarmony. The first set of questions ARE the icebreakers.

Also, keep in mind, that unpaid members can send IceBreakers. This means that your potential matches might mistake you for a non-paying member if you send IceBreakers.

ICEBREAKERS = JUST DON'T DO IT!

Wow I seriously never had an idea about that. I swear thats perhaps why I'm still on here..lol, no all kidding aside I didn't know that. I guess that's what the ones I sent Icebreakers got closed out, they figured I was a nonpaying member. I just signed up here long ago, and I never knew about these advice boards until now too. I guess chalk me up to the "FAIL BLOG"
 
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