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MQRegan is offline MQRegan Post #1  October 8,2009, 5:58pm
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I was matched on Mon and Tues with a few ladies that I found interesting. One of them, sped through all stages in one day and now we are stuck at stage 3. The other three are also stuck at stage 3 and took about 2 days time. Why would they rush through to stage 3 and just stay there for the last day? Makes no sense to me. If they lost interest, why not just close out?
 
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Correct me if I am wrong, But isn't stage three the 2nd set of questions?

If so, I was at stage 3 with a guy I really was not sure of. When I looked at the choice of questions which I thought were pretty deep, I though long and hard whether or not I wanted to continue as I felt sending those questions was a HUGE step. After a lot of thinking I closed him out and in reality I did it for his sake as I did not want to start something I could not finish and to me those 2nd set of questions are a pretty big deal

Someone told me here, I think it was an advisor that when you look at the numbers in the stages of communication if one is highlighted green it's your turn. Anyone here can correct me if I am wrong that they may not be able to make the next move.
 
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Yes, those are the deeper questions. All asked me theirs, took me a few hours, but I answered them. Didn't asked anything too deep. Just wondering why I have FOUR stage 3 communications stuck for the last couple of days. Weirds me out.
 
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Perhaps I can help.

On Saturday I am meeting a match for the first time. I have a lot of hope that it will lead to something.

Right now I am putting everyone else on hold.
 
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Up until Stage 3, it's pretty easy to answer the questions. It's just a matter of answering some multiple choice questions and shooting off some Must Have/Can't Stands. But Stage 3 is where you have to stop being lazy and put some time and thought into it. I've caught myself being lazy about answering those questions from time to time.
 
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I am in a similar situation. I had actually closed out of an account when he asked to re-open it. we went through the beginning Q's but halted at the 2nd Q's. I too wonder why. . . .to me, I wonder why go to the trouble if you're not really that interested.
 
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Yea, but all of them all holding off cause the weekend? Makes no sense? If you had no intention of answering the questions, why ask me ones? They all asked me the questions first, answered and sent over mine. If they lost interest, understandable, but at least close the match out saying you are exploring other matches. Or whatever that option is.
 
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I don't believe that it should be this way if you are actually interested in finding someone, but Life Happens.

As mentioned people have other matches, even ones that they may be seeing in person. They have work and family responsibilities, etc.

However, also as mentioned, First Questions take about one minute to send or answer because very few people do anything other than select one of the canned answers. Likewise MHCS take about 10 seconds to send and unless you are looking for a reason to reject someone they don't take much more time to read.

Second Questions are a different story. You have the opportunity to write your own questions and you have to write your own answers. I suspect that most people have not done as I have and collected all the answers that I have used for the past questions I was asked in a text file. Every once in a while I have a match that asks very deep questions which take a while to think how to answer.

While I would prefer to go through GC, and all the communication, quickly a match taking a couple of days to answer Second Questions should not be a big concern.
 
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Yea, but all of them all holding off cause the weekend? Makes no sense? If you had no intention of answering the questions, why ask me ones? They all asked me the questions first, answered and sent over mine. If they lost interest, understandable, but at least close the match out saying you are exploring other matches. Or whatever that option is.
Nearly all the matches that you meet you will only have a first date with no matter how promising they seem before meeting. To get to Open Communication with a match that seems exciting to you and then close all your other matches is just plain foolhardy!

But I have encountered this behavior in some of my matches.
 
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MQ,

Like other posters said, maybe they're stuck on those questions. Try switching to fast track and skip that part.
 
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