melodylewis is offline melodylewis Post #1  October 7,2009, 3:34pm
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Hello, I am fairly new to all of this and so I am wondering about the communication stages. I have been going through the guided communication with a guy and he seems really cool but we have been at stage 3 and he hasn't sent me his Q's and it's been a few days. I'm wondering if he's over it and moved on or if I should wait. If he wasn't interested anymore would he "close" the Match or would he just wait for me to? I'm not one to keep Matches open for too long (usually because I'm not interested). Should I wait? What do you dudes think?

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It's quite common that one side or the other doesn't know that it's their turn to communicate. This is where the Nudge can be useful.
 
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There's a good chance he's busy communicating with or dating others and is uncomfortable juggling all the communications at the same time. Just leave the match open while you're communicating with others as well. Since e-matching is a numbers game, most of those he's matched with will fizzle out and he'll resurface.

What does it hurt to leave the match open.? After a couple weeks, send him a nudge or an icebreaker or click the 'Request Fast Track' button. But don't be too quick to hit the 'Close' button.
 
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Good input Thanks
 
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Hey....

Are you sure it's not your turn to send questions? If he initiated communications by sending Short Questions to you, then in the ping-pong you end up having to send the Long Questions first.
 
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I technically initiated but then he never answered (I mean weeks went by because he was in Europe) and then I closed it. He then asked for me to re-open it and so I did and so he then answered my first Q. It's his turn. It says, "Waiting for his second questions". So I am waiting .
 
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