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Coca-Cola is offline Coca-Cola Post #41  October 28,2009, 9:29pm
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Go, ScottK, tell them.

I would like to add that this animosity "comes with the territory" because eHarmony SENDS matches, so it gets all the blame when the day's matches don't do anything.

If eharmony is a search-and-browse site, and everybody can observe how many in their area, based on their match settings, really exist AND is active, before they put down their cash or exert any effort, then they won't be complaining. ...

... except, of course, those who are upset that eharmony turned into a "meat market" site.
 
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match.com (where I met my fiance) does at least tell you when the profile's last visit was. eH, as you all have noted, does not. I have never thought that this was fair or ethical, particularly for a company that was founded by Christians.

That being said, there have been a lot of instances when a non-paying member chooses to become a paid member because they are interested in a profile that they see. I have a good friend who did that, and she and the match she joined eH for have been married 7 years and have two children (sadly, they had 3, and lost a baby last year). However, her husband had been an eH member for 10 months, and wasn't going to rejoin when his 12-month subscription expired.

So it can work.....but sometimes, it doesn't.
 
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I'd love a last login, but like ScottK said, it isn't going to happen.

Now I'll wait for someone to trot out the "be patient, we know of this one couple where one side sat idle for months and then they communicated and now they're married." You know...the whole anecdote equals data thing.

The mods will dispel any statistic on inactive matches, but at the same time, they won't tell you the percentage of paying members. Personally, I suspect they have a very good reason for that, and it sure isn't "the privacy of our members."
 
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I suspect you're right, MicMan. There are plenty of anecdotes, but I don't know of anywhere where eH posts what percentage of customers who drop a subscription do so because they met a match vs. dropped out for another reason.

That being said, the other avenues of your life don't publish those statistics, either! If you are meeting more people in online dating than you would otherwise, isn't that worth something?

For the fiance and myself, we were really restricted, due to our careers, from meeting folks in most of the traditional ways. I'm clergy, which means no dating parishioners (forget "meeting a nice man at church") or parishioners' friends & family; and it also means that I work a lot of evenings and weekends when obviously all the 9- to- 5ers out there do the opposite. The fiance is (or was - he's taking a new position next week) a supervisor in an outpatient program for the mentally ill, sponsored by Johns Hopkins. That meant that most of the people he encountered in a day were either his boss (off limits) working for him (also off limits), or his severely afflicted clients (very, very bad and unethical idea). Add to that the fact that the 3 women in the office who weren't in those categories were already partnered, and the fact that he is on call a lot of evenings, and you can see why he turned to online dating. Yes, it's a frustrating process, but it was really the only avenue for some of us. I wish you the same success.
 
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And then again, I don't care what anyone says, you might be attracted to a profile you've seen, but that doesn't mean they'll be attracted to you. We keep forgetting that. One man's cuteness is another man's 'ugliness'. Sorry. It's the truth. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I may think he's cute and he may think I'm not. Oh well.
 
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