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I have another question...how come no one ever responds to me? I feel like I am attractive. However, I don't get any responses. I am new. Most have guided communication. I am on Fast Track. Most don't want to answer the darn questions that you have to send. Either that, or I guess they just aren't interested. Being on EHarmony has been a little self deflating.
- October 7th, 2009, 10:17 pm
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
Truthfully, THE reason most matches are closed is for lack of physical attraction...
I have a slightly different tainted view on this Close Message. :P

No one EVER is too busy for a very attractive Match!
Period.

They might be stuck in Timbuktu, or swimming across the ocean, but let me tell you, if they get Brad Pitt (or Jessica Alba) as a Match, no way they would EVER Close the Match with this message.

Thus, I always think of this one as, "You are simply not attractive ENOUGH for me to take time out of my life to talk with you".

Besides, if they really WERE too busy, they would turn off Matching.
Its just another form of Other.

And don't get me started on the "Close - I would rather not say" message!!!
- October 7th, 2009, 10:56 pm
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ScottK wrote :
I have a slightly different tainted view on this Close Message. :P

No one EVER is too busy for a very attractive Match!
Period.

They might be stuck in Timbuktu, or swimming across the ocean, but let me tell you, if they get Brad Pitt (or Jessica Alba) as a Match, no way they would EVER Close the Match with this message.

Thus, I always think of this one as, "You are simply not attractive ENOUGH for me to take time out of my life to talk with you".

Besides, if they really WERE too busy, they would turn off Matching.
Its just another form of Other.

And don't get me started on the "Close - I would rather not say" message!!!
I personally have never turned off matching. Ever. I always leave it on & will do so regardless of what is going on on my life... until I with someone for a few months perhaps.

Not everyone uses the site in the same way. I have stalled on promising matches in the past. Never closed out a promising match but have been too busy to respond within a timeframe that they preferred.

I would guess that there are many people on the site that have never used the Turn off matching feature.
- October 7th, 2009, 11:15 pm
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I'll again put in my plug for not having to state a reason for closing a match. I'd just as soon see some sort of generic "I don't think we're a compatible match and good luck with your search" or something like that.
- October 8th, 2009, 06:43 am
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