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I was wondering what the typical time frame is for responses. I joined last weekend and started communicating with this girl. I sent her my 5 questions and from thier within the next day we were up to her sending me her 2nd set of questions. Its been about a week since i have gotten a response back. I know people go on vacation, work, etc just a little surprised becuase we went through the communication levels pretty fast.
- October 4th, 2009, 08:08 pm
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If it has been more than a week, she has lost interest. Go ahead and closer her out.
- October 4th, 2009, 11:07 pm
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dell2500 wrote :
I was wondering what the typical time frame is for responses. I joined last weekend and started communicating with this girl. I sent her my 5 questions and from thier within the next day we were up to her sending me her 2nd set of questions. Its been about a week since i have gotten a response back. I know people go on vacation, work, etc just a little surprised becuase we went through the communication levels pretty fast.
Maybe you were not the only one she was exchanging questions with. And some of the other answers beat yours.
- October 5th, 2009, 02:25 am
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I have sent my questions to several people and don't get a response or the courtesy of closing even. Something has got to be wrong here.
- October 5th, 2009, 02:59 am
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You'll quickly learn that there are a number of flakes that just vanish into thin air for no apparent reason.

There are basically three things you can do:

You can try a nudge after a week.

You can keep them open and move on and see if they ever contact you again.

You can close them.
- October 5th, 2009, 06:22 am
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MicMan wrote :
You'll quickly learn that there are a number of flakes that just vanish into thin air for no apparent reason.

There are basically three things you can do:

You can try a nudge after a week.

You can keep them open and move on and see if they ever contact you again.

You can close them.
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- October 5th, 2009, 10:46 am
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Dave_O wrote :
I have sent my questions to several people and don't get a response or the courtesy of closing even. Something has got to be wrong here.
Most, about 90%, of your matches are going to be non-paying members who can't respond. Most non-paying members are also non-active meaning they will never view you or close you.
- October 6th, 2009, 09:14 am
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
If it has been more than a week, she has lost interest. Go ahead and closer her out.
It costs nothing to leave a match open for a long time. You just never know.
- October 6th, 2009, 09:15 am
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I am hesitant to close people out because you never know. I have had matches close me after 2 weeks. I just like to give it about 2 weeks, or at least after I "nudge" them to see if they will respond.
- October 6th, 2009, 01:52 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Most, about 90%, of your matches are going to be non-paying members who can't respond. Most non-paying members are also non-active meaning they will never view you or close you.
Just to clarify – and sorry Gr8guyn2008, but I have to set the record straight – it’s again not the case that you can assume 90% of your matches are not paying.
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- October 6th, 2009, 09:55 pm
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