Oregon_Coast_Guy is offline Oregon_Coast_Guy Post #1  September 30,2009, 10:41pm
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I decided to give eHarmony another 3 month try. Tonight, I closed a match whose additional information section said (this is an exact quote by the way) "I don't really think eHarmony works, but I try it every once in a while."

To me, a statement like that is just a self-fulfilling prophecy. If that is really your attitude, then why join eHarmony?

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I don't think that is terribly negative so it wouldn't bother me.

It doesn't translate as being bitter or overly frustrated so I wouldn't have put so much weight on it.
 
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the match seemed to echo your own sentiments- so why would you close her?
 
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lucky173 is offline lucky173 Post #4  October 1,2009, 3:18am
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I don't see the comment as any indication of an overly negative attitude. (Actually, isn't that a pretty common thought of long-term users of the service?)

I wouldn't base my decision to close a match based on that one statement alone. I think it would be more an issue of self-fulfilling if the other profile information wasn't filled out completely, or if any communication on their part lacked effort, etc.
 
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notyet wrote :
the match seemed to echo your own sentiments- so why would you close her?
Yeah, you're lucky. You got matched on 30 parameters.
 
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I can see how somebody could read between the lines and interpret that as a negative statement.

If you're more of an optimist, you might see that as "this hasn't worked so far, but you might be the one."

If you're more of a pessimist, you might see that as "this hasn't worked so far, so why is it going to work with you?"

I wouldn't have a line like that on my profile.
 
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Oregon_Coast_Guy wrote :
I decided to give eHarmony another 3 month try. Tonight, I closed a match whose additional information section said (this is an exact quote by the way) "I don't really think eHarmony works, but I try it every once in a while."

To me, a statement like that is just a self-fulfilling prophecy. If that is really your attitude, then why join eHarmony?

Just wanting peoples' thoughts...
Uh, I must be hallucinating. I thought you had found "the one"

Talk about having more money than sense
 
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Contrary to some of the others I have to view this as a rather negative statement. No matter if I am MicMan's optimist or pessimist it is not a very wise thing to put in your profile.
 
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I don't see the comment as any indication of an overly negative attitude. (Actually, isn't that a pretty common thought of long-term users of the service?)

I wouldn't base my decision to close a match based on that one statement alone. I think it would be more an issue of self-fulfilling if the other profile information wasn't filled out completely, or if any communication on their part lacked effort, etc.
Been on eHarmony a lot longer than I would like but I have to say that it works. I have had more dates in 2009 than I had in the previous 55 years.
 
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Uh, I must be hallucinating. I thought you had found "the one"

Talk about having more money than sense
Nope, she broke up with me (by e-mail no less).
 
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