Spare Me the Politics in Your Profile


Reply
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
MCMLXXII is offline MCMLXXII Post #1  September 26,2009, 3:28pm
MCMLXXII's Avatar

Pacesetter

Joined: Jul 2009

...in the Bible-belt.

Posts: 252

See profile

It's official. I'm done.

My eH membership ends soon and I'm unlikely to renew for a host of reasons. Anyhoo, since the end date is near, I thought I would open up the age range and see what falls out.

OMG.

Today, I was matched with a gentleman that put this in his profile:
"I don't feel I would be a loving father to be romantically involved with a woman who would have an a-b-o-r-t-i-o-n for anything other than dire medical reasons."

ok, I respect his opinion but why is this nonsense in his profile? His profile is his introduction to me. If I met this guy in the grocery store, he wouldn't use this as a lead-in, so why would he place uber-political verbiage in his profile?

Note: I am not trying to start, entertain, or massage a political thread. The point of my post is that while you should showcase yourself in the best light in your profile, some topics (i.e. politics) can be saved for later.

Signed,
WTH
 
  Reply With Quote
CDMpurlieu is offline CDMpurlieu Post #2  September 26,2009, 4:56pm
CDMpurlieu's Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Apr 2008

California

Posts: 6

See profile

My thoughts are that it's an important issue with him. Many women are pro-choice. That's a deal breaker. He's saving you both time. Looks like he could have worded it in a different way...
 
  Reply With Quote
CapnCrunch23 is offline CapnCrunch23 Post #3  September 26,2009, 5:21pm

Unregistered

Joined: Sep 2009

Posts: 1,410

See profile

Sometimes we just need to cut some people some slack!

He could be new to online dating and doesn't realize what he has written is considered to be a profile pet peeve

I am also not a fan of demands and such.. but sometimes we need to consider that not everyone is a so called "veteran" of edating or frequently visits eHA to see what is wrong and what is right. Not everyone puts in the wrench time!
Last edited by CaptCrunch23; September 26,2009 at 5:21pm. Reason: copied from a previous post
 
  Reply With Quote
Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #4  September 26,2009, 5:36pm
Gr8Guyn2008's Avatar

I'm crippled by the fear That I've fallen too far to love

Sage

Joined: Jan 2008

Orlando, FL

Posts: 19,670

See profile

MCMLXXII wrote :
It's official. I'm done.

My eH membership ends soon and I'm unlikely to renew for a host of reasons. Anyhoo, since the end date is near, I thought I would open up the age range and see what falls out.

OMG.

Today, I was matched with a gentleman that put this in his profile:
"I don't feel I would be a loving father to be romantically involved with a woman who would have an a-b-o-r-t-i-o-n for anything other than dire medical reasons."

ok, I respect his opinion but why is this nonsense in his profile? His profile is his introduction to me. If I met this guy in the grocery store, he wouldn't use this as a lead-in, so why would he place uber-political verbiage in his profile?

Note: I am not trying to start, entertain, or massage a political thread. The point of my post is that while you should showcase yourself in the best light in your profile, some topics (i.e. politics) can be saved for later.

Signed,
WTH
Uh, I have an idea ... he's an idiot?!
 
  Reply With Quote
Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #5  September 26,2009, 5:38pm
Gr8Guyn2008's Avatar

I'm crippled by the fear That I've fallen too far to love

Sage

Joined: Jan 2008

Orlando, FL

Posts: 19,670

See profile

CaptCrunch23 wrote :
Sometimes we just need to cut some people some slack!

He could be new to online dating and doesn't realize what he has written is considered to be a profile pet peeve

I am also not a fan of demands and such.. but sometimes we need to consider that not everyone is a so called "veteran" of edating or frequently visits eHA to see what is wrong and what is right. Not everyone puts in the wrench time!
Some people may need some slack cut. Some people just need to be closed for being idiots.
 
  Reply With Quote
MCMLXXII is offline MCMLXXII Post #6  September 26,2009, 5:38pm
MCMLXXII's Avatar

Pacesetter

Joined: Jul 2009

...in the Bible-belt.

Posts: 252

See profile

CaptCrunch23 wrote :
Sometimes we just need to cut some people some slack!

He could be new to online dating and doesn't realize what he has written is considered to be a profile pet peeve

I am also not a fan of demands and such.. but sometimes we need to consider that not everyone is a so called "veteran" of edating or frequently visits eHA to see what is wrong and what is right. Not everyone puts in the wrench time!
I haven't closed him but I'm going to...and not for the statement mentioned in my post. Quite honestly, I'm not attracted to him but this statement didn't work in his favor.

As we know, there are some folks that aren't necessarily physically attractive but their profile can lull you in...not this guy.
 
  Reply With Quote
LincolnAdams is offline LincolnAdams Post #7  September 26,2009, 5:50pm
LincolnAdams's Avatar

is a badass.

Newbie

Joined: Sep 2009

Posts: 8

See profile

Would you rather wait until you invested time and money into a date or more before you finally found out that his deal-breaker views are incompatible with yours. He's saving you time. Stop whining about it.
 
  Reply With Quote
MCMLXXII is offline MCMLXXII Post #8  September 26,2009, 6:01pm
MCMLXXII's Avatar

Pacesetter

Joined: Jul 2009

...in the Bible-belt.

Posts: 252

See profile

LincolnAdams wrote :
Would you rather wait until you invested time and money into a date or more before you finally found out that his deal-breaker views are incompatible with yours. He's saving you time. Stop whining about it.
Hey Lincoln: First of all, I'm not whining.

Secondly, he's not saving me anything since I would've never considered dating anyway. I don't need to know someone's political positions inside of 5 minutes.
 
  Reply With Quote
tjlpd is offline tjlpd Post #9  September 26,2009, 6:21pm
tjlpd's Avatar

loves a flirt

Veteran

Joined: Jun 2009

Posts: 1,151

See profile

I have closed someone for strong political opinions. I do not think it is a profile issue, but a person issue. If this is a defining issue with him then put it in his profile and weed people out..
 
  Reply With Quote
Shmolga is offline Shmolga Post #10  September 26,2009, 6:32pm
Shmolga's Avatar

is 9.5, two more years and I'll be 10

Quick Study

Joined: Jun 2009

Posts: 69

See profile

I'm glad you brought it up. I have close a match couple of days ago who answered in the "most influential person in his life"....Barak Obama. While I have nothing against Obama, keep the damn politics away from your profile! I can just imagine our first date, talking about.....us?! ........hail no, politics!
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« Email addresses for later if I am interested? | Using eHarmony | What to ask? »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
What NOT to say in my "About Me" Profile SarcasticInSeattle Using eHarmony 38 July 19,2011 10:21pm
eHarmony Profile Workshop Question 10: What Are Five Things You "Can't Live Without"? eHA_Admin_Lori Using eHarmony 49 January 4,2011 6:20am
Do You Ever Tweak Your Profile For A Particular Match? DeBrown Using eHarmony 24 January 17,2010 2:17pm
eHarmony Profile Workshop Threads (Links listed here) neardc Using eHarmony 4 October 27,2009 7:02pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Absolutely not. I have no idea why allowing gays to marry would affect anyone's lives, unless they're sexually insecure about themselves.” –  sun73

Join the “Did our President give up the election for a single issue?” discussion

“I learned that the woman's communication style has to fit mine or else it won't work.” –  sun73

Join the “Why do 40 yr olds still play games?” discussion

“Here's where to email if you think a match might be a fraud: matchconcerns@eharmony.com . Tell them the match's name and location so they can find them. If what's making you suspicious is an email ... ” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “Match from another country...is he a "fraud"?” discussion

“I know you clarified you just want a general opinion on when people bring this subject up, but I'm going to give you both that and also what I believe you should do. The general idea most of the ... ” –  Herkemer

Join the “When is it time to discuss your position on having kids?” discussion

“And that's a very valid point. I get the feeling that eHarmony is keeping their price high to show they they are not cheap and therefore, their members are serious.It seems to me that combining the ... ” –  MicMan

Join the “Free Communication Weekend” discussion

“How long have you all been on EH? Thanks for the advice. I signed on in late April 2012 but have been on other dating sites in the past.” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “New Here” discussion

“The only one that bothers me is the "they weren't his kids so meh ..." But there could be a whole world of story behind that. Like "she dumped me and it was painful and I hated losing the kids in ... ” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “Yellow flags...To Proceed or not to proceed, that is the question?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 2:21pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0