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gonefishing68 is offline gonefishing68 Post #1  September 23,2009, 8:15am
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Forgive me if this has been asked before but having just discovered eHarmony Advice, it shows a lot more activity than eHarmony! Wouldn't it be terrific if we could migrate all our profile info on here and choose matches ourselves?

I suspect the success rate would be a lot higher than I'm currently having on eHarmony. I've been a subscriber on and off for over a year and while I have met some terrific people and have even had a couple of (what seemed at the time) promising relationships, I've found that of late I seem to be having all the problems - inactive matches, no responses etc that a lot of people have been complaining about.

Anyone, found their 'soulmate' off these discussion groups/boards?
 
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There are several couples that have found each other here on the Advice boards. There was a recent wedding of a couple that found each other here on the Advice boards.

You can create a profile here and put whatever you wish in it. I notice that you have not chosen to put much of anything in your profile here. Maybe your lack of success on eHarmony dating site is because your profile here reflects your profile on the dating site.

You can also post multiple photos here as well.
 
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Yes, would probably be a smart thing for eH to do as in allowing you to link to your profile on the dating site, should you wish to do so. My profile there is a lot more detailed than the one here, so I dont think its quantity of information that's the problem. Quality? And you might have a point!
 
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Yes, would probably be a smart thing for eH to do as in allowing you to link to your profile on the dating site, should you wish to do so. My profile there is a lot more detailed than the one here, so I dont think its quantity of information that's the problem. Quality? And you might have a point!
Gonefishing.. Just keep in mind.. The advice boards are mainly for advice. While there has been success with users dating and some getting married. That was built over time through the boards where friendships evolved.

My point being. I wouldn't suggest searching out and contacting people like you would on a regular dating site. I've seen too many people (guys) get called out on the boards for crossing the boundaries.
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We might have our wires crossed. The point being made was that its ironic that eH's paid dating site has a number of people complaining about its efficacy while its free discussion boards are as active and diverse as they are. It might suggest that both as a business model and as means to bring like-minded or 'well matched' people together, an opportunity to discuss issues of common interest is more successful than a personality profile software programme.

Rest assured, I attempt to cross no boundaries here
 
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gonefishing68 wrote :
We might have our wires crossed. The point being made was that its ironic that eH's paid dating site has a number of people complaining about its efficacy while its free discussion boards are as active and diverse as they are. It might suggest that both as a business model and as means to bring like-minded or 'well matched' people together, an opportunity to discuss issues of common interest is more successful than a personality profile software programme.

Rest assured, I attempt to cross no boundaries here
Couldn't agree with you more..well said.
 
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Hi Gonefishing68,

Thanks for sharing your perspective and idea – and welcome to these active boards! I have a few thoughts to share from a Customer Care perspective.

First, while it’s true that there is a lot of activity here, since the goals are different (as mentioned) there’s not that hesitation and analysis that may come when you are in a setting intended for long-term relationship partner searching. For example, responding to a post doesn’t automatically imply, as it does on the eHarmony matching service, that you are interested in seeing if there is potential for exploring a long term relationship with the person. If the goal were changed, who knows what things would look like?

Since the eHarmony matching system has been researched and proven to work well for so many people, it’s not going away any time soon. You've probably seen the statistic that 236 people a day on average get married through using the service.

However, since I’ve been with the company, I have seen major changes take place because of Customer feedback. The goal is always to improve upon an already excellent model. And changes, as we’ve seen, can change people’s lives in incredible ways.

Some version of your idea is not out of the question at some point. As eHarmony Advice continues to grow and develop, uses and innovations for the site will probably take off more and more. The recent wedding of a couple that met through eHarmony Advice was mentioned – here’s a link to their thread:

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...member-us.html (From Lynnabell and I, if you remember us.)

Regarding your decrease of activity on eHarmony Singles, I’m really sorry that things seem less active right now. We would love to help change that, if possible. You may want to contact our Customer Care team and see if they have any ideas on improving the service: http://help-singles.eharmony.com.

All the best,

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The real problem, as I see it, is that we are all from much too diverse areas.

I know thats not a big problem for people that have their Distance set to "The whole US", or whatever, but for a lot of us who are set to 60 miles or so, nearly everyone that is on these boards are too far away from each other.
 
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I agree with the distance issue. But then distance is almost always an issue for me. I had one match close because of distance, he lived in the city I commute to each day for work. Go figure.
 
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As someone who lives outside the US, I’m well versed with the challenges that distance can present. And yet, it can also work in strange ways. I was engaged to an eH match who lived in the US. She’d been divorced and was single for some time but eventually gave into pressure from her mom and friends to start dating again and joined eH. She got in touch with me because she liked what she read and saw on my profile and also because I lived so far away that she thought nothing would come of it. Let’s say I was a safe match!
Two months after the eH introduction, we both thought we'd found the person of our dreams and just had to meet. We decided to meet at a halfway point (read country in our case!). Six weeks later I was starting a new job in a new country and she came out for a few weeks to see what it was like, find a house, make enquiries about school for the kids etc. I then visited her in the US, met the family and we got engaged. Unfortunately as she was about to join me for good, the country I was in went through a period of political instability and violence and we had to abandon plans of her moving as it was becoming increasingly unsafe for me on my own let alone with a new family.
We remained engaged for six months during which time I visited her couple of times and she came out to where I was a couple of times as well. To cut a long story short, it obviously didn’t work out in the end, but distance wasn’t the problem. Yes, we both had the financial means to travel long distance quite easily and that was a huge help but I do believe that when you think you’ve met the right person, you’ll be surprised at just how far you’re willing to go!

Anyway, I digress and am way off topic
 
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