whatev is offline whatev Post #1  September 17,2009, 1:47pm
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Is there a way to tell of a received match is a member?

eHarmony is like other dating sites now that they let anyone post a profile for free and have the free weekends. This broadens the pool, but paid members cannot tell who is who. At least Match and Yahoo tell the last active date on their profiles. That would be helpful.
 
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MicMan is offline MicMan Post #2  September 17,2009, 3:55pm
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There is no surefire way to tell if a match is a member.

Typically, you can tell the members because they have several photos and a detailed profile, but that's not a guarantee.
 
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What about RelyID? Or is that a totally useless feature?
 
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Hi Whatev,

I can appreciate your concern – it’s a common one. You are right that it broadens your opportunities, but it is never fun when you’ve requested communication with someone who doesn’t respond. There may be any number of reasons why a match doesn’t respond (or respond as soon as preferred) rather than just closing the match.

That said, be encouraged – we’ve found that members who communicate during Free Communication Weekends who are involved in communication with a match and are interested to continue will sign up to continue. It’s always worth trying to communicate if you’re interested in getting to know someone.

From a Customer Care perspective, we certainly have gotten enough contacts from people who participated in the Free Communication Weekend and were eager to continue. Quite a few that I’ve spoken with were worried, even, that their delay in joining would sabotage their chances with a match who was waiting on them.

Something to consider too – we also speak to a good number of people who are paying members and have sparse profiles and are doing what they can to get their photos posted. In fact, because of the surge in membership since this last Free Communication Weekend, the posting and approving process in the photo department has been a bit delayed. So be patient with your matches!

As for Rely ID – it does convey a sense that someone is who they say they are and it may indicate that they value that kind of personal integrity as well. However, I’ve never heard a member say that not having Rely ID was a “deal-breaker”. It actually can be purchased without a full eHarmony subscription, though.

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Kate, there are two suggestions I have always asked EH to make.

1) I want a flag I can turn on/off so I can choose to receive a match without a photo. I am so tired of closing out matches because someone refuses to post a picture.

2) I want another flag. I only want to receive EH members. If I choose to receive the Free weekend newbies then I will change the flag to accept all

You've probably heard my requests a million times. Why can't you simply make the change so us paying members can choose what we desire?
 
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TravelingMel wrote :

2) I want another flag. I only want to receive EH members. If I choose to receive the Free weekend newbies then I will change the flag to accept all

You've probably heard my requests a million times. Why can't you simply make the change so us paying members can choose what we desire?
Good luck wid dat.
 
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TravelingMel wrote :
Kate, there are two suggestions I have always asked EH to make.

1) I want a flag I can turn on/off so I can choose to receive a match without a photo. I am so tired of closing out matches because someone refuses to post a picture.

2) I want another flag. I only want to receive EH members. If I choose to receive the Free weekend newbies then I will change the flag to accept all

You've probably heard my requests a million times. Why can't you simply make the change so us paying members can choose what we desire?
I'm absolutely sure eH will make any changes you desire - when hell freezes over.

You never know, with global warming and such...
 
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Rena450 is offline Rena450 Post #8  September 18,2009, 12:29pm
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I can't agree enough.....I am tired of seeing matches without photos. I close them immediately.
 
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"From a Customer Care perspective, we certainly have gotten enough contacts from people who participated in the Free Communication Weekend and were eager to continue. Quite a few that I’ve spoken with were worried, even, that their delay in joining would sabotage their chances with a match who was waiting on them"

Thanks for making me to laugh Kate. I actually have to disagree with you. Interesting to know is why I only got 3 responses out of 150 to whom I sent the first questions. All 3 members were free wekenders. One closed at Must Have Cant Stand, second reached open communication, just to tell me she found we have nothing in common, after she read a 5 lines introductory message. Third one started very late and did not move past the exchanging the first first questions. Is that who you call eager to communicate?
I 'll tell you the truth- yes I found eager to communicate matches,
matches who otherwise would not get any chance in the realworld
like the only match I met for 365 days, and who is motion and speech impaired. And the other 2 matches I am in communication still- the one who is legally blind and uses white cane and the guiding dog to go outside, and the one that uses the sign language to communicate. Oh yeah and forgot about latest match -320 lbs lady. Nothing against them, they are at least honest to say about their situation, not like the others who does not have the moral to stand out and be honest to say what it is they like or not, and prefer to hide their heads like ostrich. Why are these eager to communicate been on standby for the last 30 days?
Five matches for the last 30 days who did not found the courage and effort to move to Open comunication status. May be they like very much the status quo, or may be they were the decoy, the bait?
The one who requested communication( for first time in 364 days of membership) made it open communication and said: "I enjoyed commincating with you." and after that no call, no show - the latest status is: We're sorry but this member profile is no longer available, but we wish you a good luck with the other matches. You want to hear one more story about the match who re-opened me and declared: "You are the luckiest man in the world, I usually dont do this to my other matches but I am going to give you few credits just for your effort". 1 more stage of questions exchanged, it was enough for her to decide that "The Chemistry was not here" plus 4 more reasons incl . Other. Very nice!!! I am so excited of start of my second term and I loaded myself with enough negative energy in the 2 weeks of my membership, because you had so many eager to communicate matches.
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I didn't know that "free" members could look so much like "paid" members. I just assumed that no photos and short profiles meant nonpaid. Obviously this isn't true! I was FasTracked by a match who looked like a real paid up member. Instead he was on a free weekend. He confessed that he was unwilling to pay for a membership just to chat with me. And I was unwilling to give out personal information before the free weekend was over. So much for that...
 
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