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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #1  September 14,2009, 10:29pm
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A match just sent me this question:

How would you describe the chemistry that you need to feel after a couple of dates in order to continue to see him?
I'm assuming he made up this question as I've never received it before and don't recall seeing it on the list. It sounds like he's trying to build off of one of the 1st round questions, the one on chemistry there.

"Describe the chemistry you need to feel....?!?!?" Really? How would YOU describe the chemistry you need to feel with a match? To me, it's one of those things you feel in your gut and/or heart... not so much something you can describe in words. Who asks you to describe chemistry fer crying out loud?!?

And some guys wonder why it takes so long to get answers.....
 
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melman is offline melman Post #2  September 14,2009, 10:33pm
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"Sodium bicarbonate".

There, that wasn't so hard.
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #3  September 15,2009, 5:39am
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"How would YOU describe the chemistry you need to feel with a match? To me, it's one of those things you feel in your gut and/or heart... not so much something you can describe in words."

There is your answer.

To be honest with you, I find that any match who tries to dig too deep into what I want or what I'm looking for in a man is usually a fake creature who will pretend to be whatever he thinks I want him to be.....bleah......
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
A match just sent me this question:

How would you describe the chemistry that you need to feel after a couple of dates in order to continue to see him?
I'm assuming he made up this question as I've never received it before and don't recall seeing it on the list. .....
1-cup what?
2-tbsp huh?
1 gallon closed reason: other

I give him a B- for the effort of creating his own question. but just missed the mark.
 
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notyet is offline notyet Post #5  September 15,2009, 6:55am
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i never answer questions immediately- even the first round. i always sit on them for at least three days just for this reason. i write all of my own answers (mostly)- even in the first round. so i want to make sure i word the answers well.

if i got the question you recienved:
Wonderwoman402 wrote :
How would you describe the chemistry that you need to feel after a couple of dates in order to continue to see him?
i would answer, as i have to this question in the first round:
"I do not believe in 'chemistry' or 'soul mates.' I believe that what is commonly known as 'chemistry' can be generated over time by two people that care deeply for each other."

to that, i would add for this question, "for me to agree to a subsequent dates, i would have to enjoy your company."

for the record- i have yet to use the stock questions in the second round. i want to get to know you and hope you want to get to know me. after reading a profile and the first round and then the exchange of MH/CS- one really should be able to think of an original question.

it is disappointing to me if one cannot think of something original- what they really want to know about me.
 
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melman wrote :
"Sodium bicarbonate".

There, that wasn't so hard.
"... Oh, what a relief it is!"

Try these for a second round combination of questions:
1. Describe your ideal man/woman.2. What have you learned from past relationships?

These were asked by a FCW visitor, creating pressure versus response time.

Typing skill seems to sometimes be a "must have" for the use of eHarmony.
 
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Or you can tell him, "You just better be hot."
 
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danimal1968 is offline danimal1968 Post #8  September 15,2009, 7:59pm
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I'd suppose what he's trying to figure out is whether you're looking to be knocked head over heels or whether he should move more slowly. The last woman he dated probably said either that they were looking for instant chemistry or that he was trying too hard too quickly.

Frankly, there's a question in the first series that covers this nicely and I think he blew it and forgot to ask.
 
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notyet wrote :

"I do not believe in 'chemistry' or 'soul mates.' I believe that what is commonly known as 'chemistry' can be generated over time by two people that care deeply for each other."
LOL, this is exactly my answer to one of the question my match asked me

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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #10  September 15,2009, 8:12pm
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Just tell him "I need to feel my heart pound"..
and a "a stirring in my loins"..

ya know, some romantic cr*p like that.
 
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