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RebornInFire is offline RebornInFire Post #1  September 11,2009, 9:15am
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Ever get the impression some of the 5Q only have one right answer? For me it's the ambition question. The very act of choosing that question to me indicates they are looking for the most ambitious person ever, so you either indicate you are incredibly ambitious or you get closed. As a relatively content person (I'm not against moving up, but I'm pretty risk-adverse at this stage of my life) I know it's all over but the fat woman singing. 100% chance of closure/poofing so far.

Anybody else see any other questions you sense only have one right answer?
 
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In my experience most people consider the Guided Communication process as just something that you have to do in order to get to Open Communication and meeting.

Personally I do ask certain questions and am looking for certain answers. I have never closed a match because she did not answer with the answer that I was looking for and in most cases there is not only one answer that I consider to be good.

For me I consider that the "Chemistry" question answer is important. If they answer that they need the instant click then I know I won't be getting a second date (not that I get many second dates anyway).

For your ambition question it could be that they are looking for someone that is very ambitious. It also could be that they were married to someone whose life revolved around their job, climbing the corporate ladder and making money to the exclusion of everything else, including them. And they are wishing to avoid being in that situation again.

You should answer all questions honestly and if you gave an answer that your match did not like then you were just not all that compatible.
 
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cardguy is offline cardguy Post #3  September 11,2009, 9:51am
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The temper question falls in the same category I think....it's pretty hard to spin a tendency to anger as a positive. The questions about a woman having more income and one's willingness to relocate also seem to be fairly blunt filter questions.
 
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The temper question falls in the same category I think....it's pretty hard to spin a tendency to anger as a positive. The questions about a woman having more income and one's willingness to relocate also seem to be fairly blunt filter questions.
Funny you mention that income question. I had a match that within her profile said she was tired of men not reading her profile, so if they expected a response you (as a man) HAD to ask that income question as #5 (since it is rarely chosen). It was kind of clever I admit. If you are an attractive female you would get to see right off the bat how many men are just 'window' shopping.
 
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I want to cancel my account. Please help me. thanks.
 
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No. You are stuck here 'til eternity. Every month ehahaha will charge your credit card $30 for the rest of your life. So stick around and have fun with the rest of us.
 
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The only question I've gotten where I felt like the match absolutely had a specific "right/wrong" answer he was looking for is the premarital sex question. I hate that one...I actually close anyone who asks it, just because it bugs me so much to get it in the first 5 Qs!
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
You should answer all questions honestly
Still?

To the OP - Some questions do not deserve an honest answer because they are asked from their emotional baggage, or because they're just lousy questions. Please look up the thread "Answers to Wrong Questions" where we debated this very topic just a few days ago. Would be curious to know what you think.
 
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artneoo wrote :
I want to cancel my account. Please help me. thanks.
artneoo -- It's easy to do that from within your eH account.

Go to the "My settings" tab, and then the "My account" tab. At the bottom of the page you'll see where to cancel your account. If you need help with this, call eH Customer Service.

Unless you are having your account deleted, you'll also want to be sure to turn matching "off" under the "match settings" tab.
 
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cardguy is offline cardguy Post #10  September 11,2009, 5:13pm
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I definitely don't buy that approach, melman. I certainly agree that some of the first questions are pretty poor choices, but I don't see how giving a flippant non-answer is going to resolve the situation. If I cared enough to ask such a question up front, I'd want an answer. If I really found someone's questioning to be a big turnoff, I'd simply close the match. A non-answer to me says either "I think your questions aren't worth answering" or "I think I'm too good for this process", neither of which strikes me as particularly endearing.
 
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