saulgoode is offline saulgoode Post #1  September 8,2009, 9:48am
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Not that you should do this on this advice site, but in your profile, ladies (and guys, I guess, I don't look at their profiles), show us your body.

Now I'm not talking bikinis, like in the shirtless thread, I'm talking a regular old body shot, with you in your business casual attire, doing something you might normally be doing. I recall this one picture of a lady straining against an armfull of pavestones she was laying around her driveway. Beautiful!

It's not so much as to weed out the fat -- it's not that at all -- it's to set our expectations to the proper level. Sure, by posting a body-shot, you'll weed out guys who do not like larger women, but it's either right up front, or after two weeks of communique and a terrible first date.

You'll also get the right dates, not the wrong dates. You'll get guys who know exactly what they're getting into. Your first dates will go a lot smoother.

This goes both ways, btw, men should post full-body shots as well, but I'd guess most of us do, as we're not nearly as self-conscious as women.

Just saying. I'm not judging, because I honestly don't care, but being honest and upfront should go from head to toe, not just from head to chin.

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I used to put that I was 5'9", then moved it to 5'8". A first date said to me, "You're not 5'8". Look." She stood next to me and did that hand-to-head measurement against me. "See. You're 5'7"."

So, I put 5'7" now. I get weeded out, sure, but I also don't have to explain myself on the first date. I'm actually 5' 6 7/8", but who's counting...
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  September 8,2009, 9:58am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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So....you think I need to update my old photo?

Darn...I see the photo I'm referring currently only shows up if you click on my profile.
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saulgoode wrote :
Not that you should do this on this advice site, but in your profile, ladies (and guys, I guess, I don't look at their profiles), show us your body.

Now I'm not talking bikinis, like in the shirtless thread, I'm talking a regular old body shot, with you in your business casual attire, doing something you might normally be doing. I recall this one picture of a lady straining against an armfull of pavestones she was laying around her driveway. Beautiful!

It's not so much as to weed out the fat -- it's not that at all -- it's to set our expectations to the proper level. Sure, by posting a body-shot, you'll weed out guys who do not like larger women, but it's either right up front, or after two weeks of communique and a terrible first date.

You'll also get the right dates, not the wrong dates. You'll get guys who know exactly what they're getting into. Your first dates will go a lot smoother.

This goes both ways, btw, men should post full-body shots as well, but I'd guess most of us do, as we're not nearly as self-conscious as women.

Just saying. I'm not judging, because I honestly don't care, but being honest and upfront should go from head to toe, not just from head to chin.

- Saul

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I used to put that I was 5'9", then moved it to 5'8". A first date said to me, "You're not 5'8". Look." She stood next to me and did that hand-to-head measurement against me. "See. You're 5'7"."

So, I put 5'7" now. I get weeded out, sure, but I also don't have to explain myself on the first date. I'm actually 5' 6 7/8", but who's counting...

I saw a lady put up a full body shot once. It was very dark and she was wearing all black..long sleeves and all. She may as well have been a puppeteer. Um...clever...not.
I'm actually 5'10 1/2"...but the profile page won't let me put the extra half inch in there. I just KNOW it's holding me back!!!
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #4  September 8,2009, 10:03am
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I agree, I have a couple of body shots on my profile. I am sure plenty of people close me out for "other" when in reality it is because I am not the most "built" guy but as you said I would rather they do it on eHarmony after seeing my photo than after wasting my time meeting them.
 
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RebornInFire wrote :
I'm actually 5'10 1/2"...but the profile page won't let me put the extra half inch in there. I just KNOW it's holding me back!!!
Just round "up" to 6'2", RIF!
 
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I have full body pictures in my eHarmony profile. I'm really surprised at the amount of women that don't. It's staggering, at least the ones I'm matched with.
 
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I have full body pictures in my eHarmony profile. I'm really surprised at the amount of women that don't. It's staggering, at least the ones I'm matched with.
Until reading these boards, it honestly never occurred to me to post a full-body pic (I've since done so). I think that's probably true for lots of women; we assume that "what we look like" means what our face looks like.

I've gotten lots of profiles from men where I can barely see their face because the image is so small or the picture is of them standing far in the distance. I want to be able to see their smile in a close-up; the full body shot is much less important to me...lol.
 
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saulgoode wrote :
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I used to put that I was 5'9", then moved it to 5'8". A first date said to me, "You're not 5'8". Look." She stood next to me and did that hand-to-head measurement against me. "See. You're 5'7"."

So, I put 5'7" now. I get weeded out, sure, but I also don't have to explain myself on the first date. I'm actually 5' 6 7/8", but who's counting...
Saul,

It nice to see you are starting to be honest about something since you are not honest about your politics.

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Thaliana1981 is offline Thaliana1981 Post #9  September 8,2009, 10:18am
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*makes a note to call her photographer friend* Unfortunately, his camera battery died before we got to decent full length shots, so I don't have any. Full torso shots, yes.

But what startles me about this thread....guys lie about their height???

Isn't that the FIRST thing I'm going to notice when we stand next to each other? I'm a tall girl. 5'11". I don't try to hide it. I also close out every match that's 5'8" and below...may make me shallow, but I like to wear heels, and I hate to hug my date and have his face in my cleavage.

C'mon, guys. Put your real height in your profiles!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #10  September 8,2009, 10:19am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Hold on everyone....we've just been teleported to 'Using eHarmony'.
 
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