Octang is offline Octang Post #1  September 5,2009, 4:29pm
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Throughout this year I lost a good deal of weight and as a result have become better looking than I once was. This has certainly led to an increase in my eharmony communications than what I previously had, which is great!

However, lately I have noticed a disturbing trend. Most of the women who have communicated with me over the past few months have gone a few steps through the guided communication process and then stopped sending me communications altogether (without closing the match). At first I thought it was a fluke, but I currently have a number of matches still open sitting open in stages 2-4 without hearing from the member for weeks/months. What is going on? Obviously it is not a fluke anymore. (nor were these open communication weekend issues)

I am assuming these women are communicating with multiple men at once and they leave me hanging after they find another man they are communicating with that they are more interested in. Would that be a correct assumption, or is there a different reason that this is happening so frequently?
 
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TheThinker is offline TheThinker Post #2  September 5,2009, 4:43pm
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That's one of the possibilities, sure..
or, they didn't want to tell you they didn't like your answers, so they leave you hanging...it's happened to me, although only once or twice.

At some point you'll have to close them and move on, I guess.
 
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Hi Octang,

From what I have read on these boards (and I have read a LOT- I'm on break between quarters at school LOL) I would say your experience is pretty common. And from what I read, it goes both ways-- men do it to women too.

I don't have any personal experience with it, because no on has even answered my first 5 questions yet. :-(

I think people just find it so easy to drop people online without explanation, that they don't stop to think about being polite.

And as Thinker said, most of them are likely communicating with other people too, so they have probably just decided to go with someone else, and then didn't bother to tell you. Or there could be 100 other reasons why.

Congratulations on your weight loss!! I have recently embarked on a diet/exercise regimen and I can't wait to have an updated photo taken! :-)
 
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