eHarmony Profile Workshop Question 10: What Are Five Things You "Can't Live Without"?


Reply
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
eHA_Admin_Lori is offline eHA_Admin_Lori — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  August 31,2009, 4:24pm
eHA_Admin_Lor…'s Avatar

My one wish for you, is love. :)

Moderator

Joined: Nov 2008

Santa Monica, CA

Posts: 5,120

See profile

Hey everyone! Time for another profile workshop!

This discussion will focus on Question 10,

What Are Five Things That You "Can't Live Without"?

Please post your responses to these questions and provide constructive feedback on others' responses. The goal is to help everyone have the best possible profile to express who they are and what they're about.

~~~

Check out our past Profile Workshop Threads:

eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 1: What are you most passionate about?
Dating advice message board (eHarmony Profile Workshop Question 9: How Do You Typically Spend Your Leisure Time?)

eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 2: What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?
Dating advice message board (eHarmony Profile Workshop - Question 2: What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?)

eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 3: Who Has been most influential person in your life, and why?
Dating advice message board (eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 3: "Who has been most influential person in your life, & why?')

eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 6: What is the most important quality you seek in another?
Dating advice message board


eHarmony Profile Workshop Question 7: Other than appearance, what do people notice about you?
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...about-you.html


eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 8: "What's The One Thing People Don't Notice About You...?"
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...about-you.html


eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 9: "How Do You Typically Spend Your Leisure Time?"
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...sure-time.html
 
  Reply With Quote
Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #2  August 31,2009, 5:58pm
Gr8Guyn2008's Avatar

I'm crippled by the fear That I've fallen too far to love

Sage

Joined: Jan 2008

Orlando, FL

Posts: 19,670

See profile

a. My faith
b. Friends and family
c. Good health
d. e-mail / computer / internet
e. Air conditioning in Florida
 
  Reply With Quote
Mokkesofie is offline Mokkesofie Post #3  September 1,2009, 6:57am
Mokkesofie's Avatar

Power Poster

Joined: Nov 2008

Posts: 8,463

See profile

1. Family and friends
2. Sex
3. My gym
4. The Internet
5. Horseback riding
6. Traveling
7. Music
8. Books
9. Dancing
10. Ice-cream
Last edited by Mokkesofie; September 1,2009 at 10:11am. Reason: Ooooops, didn't see it was only five things, oh well........
 
  Reply With Quote
Robert_inSD is offline Robert_inSD Post #4  September 1,2009, 10:08am
Robert_inSD's Avatar

shares a real nebula photo. St. Valentine goes galactic!

Quick Study

Joined: May 2009

Posts: 145

See profile

There are often more than just five things for any of us, but I do pay great attention if the entry is filled out. It tells me a lot about if a match might find me to fit their ideals.

For me:
a) Mutual Appreciation and Respect
b) Loyalty and Honesty
c) Communication
d) Romance, lots of it.
e) Creativity and Spontaneity.

Ok, some doubles there, but hey, there was space in the entry fields! I'd include physical attraction in (d-Romance), but that's only part of it.

My advice to all is to be as verbose as you can in your entries! Express all that you can, to find the right match for you.
 
  Reply With Quote
kiss_that_frog is offline kiss_that_frog Post #5  September 1,2009, 10:51am
kiss_that_fro…'s Avatar

Newbie

Joined: Apr 2008

Posts: 10

See profile

Mokkesofie wrote :
2. Sex
I don't know if this is the appropriate thread to start this discussion, so please feel free to ask me to move it.

Is it just the double standard thing rearing its ugly head, or are men not allowed to list 'sex' as an important item in their profiles?

Are men perceived as being perverts, horn dogs, pigs, etc., etc. if we list sex as an important item, or do the ladies accept this as an innocent part of our profiles?
 
  Reply With Quote
AnnieDayNow is offline AnnieDayNow Post #6  September 1,2009, 11:54am
AnnieDayNow's Avatar

is tired from working long hours this week.

Newbie

Joined: Aug 2009

SW US

Posts: 15

See profile

kiss_that_frog,
to me, it's information. It's certainly human...All other things in a profile being equal, it might make a difference, maybe...

My list (and I'm not 100% satisfied with it):

a)My friends
b)My cat
c)A place to call my own -- even if it's small
d)A comfortable pair of shoes (in good repair)
e)Breakfast
Last edited by AnnieDayNow; September 1,2009 at 3:00pm. Reason: spelling
 
  Reply With Quote
DeBrown is offline DeBrown Post #7  September 2,2009, 3:28am
DeBrown's Avatar

To be Irish is to know that in the end, the world will break your heart.

Quick Study

Joined: Aug 2009

Posts: 169

See profile

To kiss that frog, I would say when I see "sex" or some variation thereof on a man's "what I can't live without" list, I just role my eyes. But it doesn't count against them, unless they mention sex in every single category, like 3 things you're thankful for, what you are looking for in a partner, etc. If they mention it every time, then I pretty much just close the match. Not because I don't like sex-- I do! But I'm not into perverts that think, talk, breathe sex every single second... or at least do it out loud! :-)

What turns me off is the "literal" answer... air, food, water.... are you trying to be funny? Cause it didn't work!!

Here are mine, feel free to critique!!

1. My kids/family
2. my faith
3. my friends
4. music and art
5.learning and writing (I'm a grad student in anthropology)
 
  Reply With Quote
WYskywatcher is offline WYskywatcher Post #8  September 2,2009, 4:37pm
WYskywatcher's Avatar

got her profile back! Thank you tech guy! :-)

Virtuoso

Joined: Jul 2009

Least populated state in the country!

Posts: 2,960

See profile

1. chocolate!
2. ok, seriously: others to share life and love with
3. fresh mountain air enjoyed far away from the constant buzz of development
4. laughter
5. a reliable form of transportation (presently, happens to be a Jeep)
 
  Reply With Quote
jenayr is offline jenayr Post #9  September 27,2009, 2:15pm
jenayr's Avatar

Joined: Sep 2009

Posts: 8

See profile

my brothers - they keep me grounded
love - giving and receiving!
laughter - as much as possible
intellectual stimulation - inside & outside my job
down time - a nice book, a nap, a lazy day
 
  Reply With Quote
melman is offline melman Post #10  September 27,2009, 3:10pm
melman's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Aug 2009

Posts: 2,944

See profile

I find this to be the most worthless and annoying question in the whole profile. The super-short answer boxes allow no opportunity to say anything worthwhile. I don't think I've ever seen anything of value with this question.

Most women I was matched with gave insightful answers like "air" (or even "oxygen"), or various girly things like "shoes" and "chocolate". None of which increased my interest or attraction. I just don't think there are any "good" answers.

Oprah-esque stuff like Robert gave above are just blue-skies and puppy-dogs, and can't possibly be appealing... can they? After all, if he really couldn't live without "Romance, lots of it.", he wouldn't be on eH looking for it. So therefore, he is "living without it". Again demonstrating the worthlessness of this question.

The profile already has long-form questions to explore passions and inner qualities. So why try to repeat it in a much shorter and more worthless form?

Oh - and did I mention that I really dislike this question?
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« Open Communication Confusion | Using eHarmony | When to pull the trigger »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 6: What is the most important quality you seek in another? eHA_Admin_Lori Using eHarmony 105 December 27,2010 5:49pm
eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 8: "What's The One Thing People Don't Notice About You...?" eHA_Admin_Lori Using eHarmony 57 November 9,2010 2:02pm
eHarmony Profile Workshop Question 7: Other than appearance, what do people notice about you? eHA_Admin_Lori Using eHarmony 29 July 28,2010 10:03am
eHarmony Profile Workshop - Question 2: What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful? eHA_Admin_Lori Using eHarmony 93 May 23,2010 3:18pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Absolutely not. I have no idea why allowing gays to marry would affect anyone's lives, unless they're sexually insecure about themselves.” –  sun73

Join the “Did our President give up the election for a single issue?” discussion

“I learned that the woman's communication style has to fit mine or else it won't work.” –  sun73

Join the “Why do 40 yr olds still play games?” discussion

“Here's where to email if you think a match might be a fraud: matchconcerns@eharmony.com . Tell them the match's name and location so they can find them. If what's making you suspicious is an email ... ” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “Match from another country...is he a "fraud"?” discussion

“I know you clarified you just want a general opinion on when people bring this subject up, but I'm going to give you both that and also what I believe you should do. The general idea most of the ... ” –  Herkemer

Join the “When is it time to discuss your position on having kids?” discussion

“And that's a very valid point. I get the feeling that eHarmony is keeping their price high to show they they are not cheap and therefore, their members are serious.It seems to me that combining the ... ” –  MicMan

Join the “Free Communication Weekend” discussion

“How long have you all been on EH? Thanks for the advice. I signed on in late April 2012 but have been on other dating sites in the past.” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “New Here” discussion

“The only one that bothers me is the "they weren't his kids so meh ..." But there could be a whole world of story behind that. Like "she dumped me and it was painful and I hated losing the kids in ... ” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “Yellow flags...To Proceed or not to proceed, that is the question?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 2:10pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0