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Wow John, thanks! I never thought of that. I actually had a stalker situation last year from a blog I was writing; I also inadvertantly gave out too much information and he put 2 and 2 together.

I am just too open with people. I will take your advice and change my profile. Thank you for the heads up!!!

Hey Chawks!! The funny thing is, Washington is one of the most liberal states there is. We had a church potluck today and not one person brought anything containing meat! We are crazy about the environment and when we were voting for the new King County Executive last month, the biggest issue was over how to run the animal shelter.

So it's weird how many meat eating, hunting, Harley riding right wing conservatives I've been matched up with! But hey, Chawks, come on up here and I'll hook you up! :-)
- August 30th, 2009, 04:13 pm
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DeBrown wrote :
Wow John, thanks! I never thought of that. I actually had a stalker situation last year from a blog I was writing; I also inadvertantly gave out too much information and he put 2 and 2 together.

I am just too open with people. I will take your advice and change my profile. Thank you for the heads up!!!
You're welcome. Your new pic is good too.

And since we're all friends here, I'll let you in on a little secret. My name's not John & I'm not even a man! But don't be embarrassed; no offense was taken by me or intended by you. It just struck me as funny. LOL

The only man here (so far) is Mr. Right, and he doesn't have to worry about stalkers, so we get to see his very pleasant face!

Welcome to the boards!
(pink for the all the ladies with special apologies to Mr. Right!)
- August 30th, 2009, 04:57 pm
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Hi, DeBrown! I feel your pain. The same sort of thing happens to me all the time. I get hunters (which I don't mind; I'm omnivorous and enjoyed moose, the once I ate it). But I too get Harley guys, which just isn't my thing*... and, even more often, guys who say they don't read. (I'm a professional writer.) Their confessions do make it easier to close on them, but I'm always puzzled when one of these gentlemen expresses an interest in me, when it is clear from my profile that written fiction and nonfiction are a major part of my existence.

I do wish that eHarmony had a "political" filter. Like you, I'm liberal, sometimes get very conservative matches, with or without motorcycles. (Fiscal conservatives I don't mind unless they oppose national health care; social conservatives are another matter.) But until then, the extreme conservatives, the Harley guys, the non-readers, and various others who run up against one of my other "quirks," I can weed out "manually" at some point in the process. Sooner, with luck, rather than later!

*Though if a fellow came along with a Brough Superior SS100 of a very specific provenance... I might make an exception.
- August 30th, 2009, 05:50 pm
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You don't have to list the things that you don't like, although eH does have areas for that now. But build up the things that you really do like. Put emphasis on that. Remember, in order to find the right pair of shoes, you have to try them all on.
- August 30th, 2009, 09:27 pm
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DeBrown wrote :
Hi Mr. Right,

No I do not have that in my profile. I put down the things I LIKE to do, not the one's I don't, because I agree that would come across as pretty negative. judgemental?



I understand that eH claims to match on personality, rather than on hobbies, as you say, but I think that what a person does in his/her spare time, and what they are passionate about DO speak to their personalities. And that is what I feel eH is missing. Been a while since I closed, but isn't there a question "what are you passionate about?"?

eH does allow people to use certain fields to choose whom their matches will be, such as smoking, alcohol consumption, age, location, even height, and religion. Those are not really personality traits, but they do speak to what kind of a person they are.

I guess what I am asking is why can I filter out anyone who smokes or who is a different religion, why can't I screen out guys who ride Harleys? Guys that ride Honda's are OK? Like I said, it would be a really easy thing for eH to set up. sure 137,251 questions abut what someone does not like

And I completely agree with you, Mr. Right, that no one is perfect, especially me! :-) (haven't met me ) But we all have our "deal breakers" and I would like to be able to not receive matches that have my deal breakers, and bet they'd like to not get matched with me either! :-)

btw, congratulations and good luck finding the perfect diamond! :-) (He couldn't have... I DID (Laura) !!!!
There is a "filter" for all the qualifications you listed (and more)... it's called "close match"!!!

Pseudo political commentary: liberal = wants someone else (ie government) to do the work for them. Hey ! An idea.... how about OHarmony (ObamaHarmony)
- August 31st, 2009, 03:06 pm
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Hi, DeBrown! I feel your pain. The same sort of thing happens to me all the time. I get hunters (which I don't mind; I'm omnivorous and enjoyed moose, the once I ate it). But I too get Harley guys, which just isn't my thing*... and, even more often, guys who say they don't read. (I'm a professional writer.) Their confessions do make it easier to close on them, but I'm always puzzled when one of these gentlemen expresses an interest in me, when it is clear from my profile that written fiction and nonfiction are a major part of my existence. Very complex answer: they're open minded

I do wish that eHarmony had a "political" filter. Like you, I'm liberal, sometimes get very conservative matches, with or without motorcycles. (Fiscal conservatives I don't mind unless they oppose national health care; social conservatives are another matter.) But until then, the extreme conservatives, the Harley guys, the non-readers, and various others who run up against one of my other "quirks," I can weed out "manually" at some point in the process. Good thing (for them) the country's top two political stratigists did not use "filters" (as much as I disdain James Carville, his views and his lack of any sense of logic, I have to give him props for having an open mind on something. Last I heard James and Mary Matilin (Republican) were still happily married ).

*Though if a fellow came along with a Brough Superior SS100 of a very specific provenance... I might make an exception.
There I go again
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- August 31st, 2009, 03:18 pm
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- August 31st, 2009, 08:43 pm
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- August 31st, 2009, 08:49 pm
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So a guy who wrote "I believe hunting is a very cruel sport" would be filtered out of your matches.
- August 31st, 2009, 08:54 pm
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Seems like a lot of problems you have here.

eHarmony matches based on the 29 Dimensions which come from how you answered the Personality Profile Questionnaire. If you thought it was a joke then you will be matched with jokes. So maybe you need to re-take the Questionnaire.

Then there is the thing about not getting enough matches in Seattle. There are an awful lot of people in Seattle so you should be getting plenty of matches. You may want to contact customer service to see if there is a problem.

Then maybe you should change your attitude toward dating. Date for the fun of the date itself not for a goal of finding a mate. Go out with most anyone at least once (maybe even twice). You may have fun, you may learn something about that person, you may even learn something about yourself.

Or you could continue to do what you are doing now. So I have to ask, how's that working for you?
- August 31st, 2009, 08:56 pm
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