Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #1  August 28,2009, 7:37pm
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Now you all know that I am not right bright so interpret this group of MHCS for me. I have a match that has selected these MHCS and to me there is a conflict between them:

Passionate......I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding.

Affectionate......I must have someone who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.

Infidelity......I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.

So far so good ...

Sexually Obsessed......I can't stand someone who is sexually obsessive.

Seems that there is a conflict here to me. But maybe I am just stoopid
 
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On days with an 's' in it, she has a headache.
 
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LizziePooh is offline LizziePooh Post #3  August 28,2009, 7:45pm

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Let me explain...

She is saying that she has a very healthy appetite for sex in a monogamous relationship. She is comfortable with sex but she does not want you to be a perv.

And you aren't a perv, so communicate with her. I like her!!!
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Now you all know that I am not right bright so interpret this group of MHCS for me. I have a match that has selected these MHCS and to me there is a conflict between them:

Passionate......I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding.

Affectionate......I must have someone who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.

Infidelity......I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.

So far so good ...

Sexually Obsessed......I can't stand someone who is sexually obsessive.

Seems that there is a conflict here to me. But maybe I am just stoopid
I got a similar apparent condradiction one time, don't even remember what it was at the moment. I waited until the last set of questions and typed in one asking her to elaborate on that.
She explained herself, and I closed based on her explanation. That may happen this time to, but at least give her the chance to explain it herself, because those MHCS are pretty generic.

If you still want us to guess blindly, my guess would be she wants a man who will be passionate about her (and only her), physically affectionate but not totally obsessed with sex and only sex all the time.
Sex: a healthy part of this complete breakfast..er..relationship.
(disclaimer: not a significant source of communication, not a substitute for warm affection or random cuddles, some restrictions apply, use only as directed.)
 
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kevin76 wrote :
Sex: a healthy part of this complete breakfast..er..relationship.
(disclaimer: not a significant source of communication, not a substitute for warm affection or random cuddles, some restrictions apply, use only as directed.)
Kevin, Kevin, Kevin - some of us like to communicate through touch!!!

And GrGuy08, I would not ask. I really think what she selected was fine.
Just keep communicating and see if you like her when you meet in person. That's my .02 cents.
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
Kevin, Kevin, Kevin - some of us like to communicate through touch!!!

And GrGuy08, I would not ask. I really think what she selected was fine.
Just keep communicating and see if you like her when you meet in person. That's my .02 cents.
Communicate through touch? Really? Could you tell me your plans for the weekend using tou... wait... nevermind... what I mean to say is, if you're having a significant diffuculty in the relationship and need to work it out, then just having se... wait... nevermind...

nice day, isn't it?
 
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JerryC is offline JerryC Post #7  August 28,2009, 8:09pm
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I don't have any tea leaves or chicken guts to find the answers with, but I don't see a conflict. Actually, I have the first two in my own MH. Not sure if I have the third in my CS but it would fit my idea of how an intimate relationship should work. I know the fourth one isn't
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The first two go hand in hand. They're just stages in a relationship. If you're comfortable with affection, both giving and receiving, you won't even notice the transformation to passion because the understanding will already be there.

The last two go hand in hand also. Obsession implies the blinders are on and the focus is intense on one thing. And if you perceive what you're obsessed with isn't there you will look elsewhere for it.

From the Three Penny Opera
"Show me the way to the next little girl
Oh don't ask why, Oh don't ask why
If I can't have the next little girl
I tell you I will die, I tell you I will die."
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
Let me explain...

She is saying that she has a very healthy appetite for sex in a monogamous relationship. She is comfortable with sex but she does not want you to be a perv.

And you aren't a perv, so communicate with her. I like her!!!
I second that
 
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kevin76 wrote :
Communicate through touch? Really? Could you tell me your plans for the weekend using tou... wait... nevermind... what I mean to say is, if you're having a significant diffuculty in the relationship and need to work it out, then just having se... wait... nevermind...

nice day, isn't it?
Ahhh, but that is the chicken and the egg thing. Not enough equals problems, problems equals not enough. It is circular and gets you nowhere.

I am like JerryC (and I am a girl). I have some of the sexual choices selected. I can't remember exactly which ones but I know I had the first one and the one that was something about sex on a regular basis. Might be strange coming from a woman but it means that I believe that sexual intimacy is a very real and very wonderful component of a relationship. It is not exclusive of communication; it actually is a great way of communicating things.

Intimacy in all forms is extremely important but I think maybe your gauge of how intimate you are with each other is through your love-making.
 
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I second that
Yes! Me too! (Can I third it???)
 
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