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LizziePooh wrote :
Let me explain...

She is saying that she has a very healthy appetite for sex in a monogamous relationship. She is comfortable with sex but she does not want you to be a perv.

And you aren't a perv, so communicate with her. I like her!!!
How do you know I am communicating with her. Sent her my MHCS and am waiting for her to send Second Questions. I am not going to hold out much hope for anything more than a first date because she said that she will have determined "chemistry" within the first few minutes. I also may not be able to afford her becasuse she said that she likes four star restaurants.

But hope springs eternal and I can always dream.

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- August 28th, 2009, 09:19 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Seems that there is a conflict here to me. But maybe I am just stoopid
I don't see any conflict, at all. There's a HEEYOOGE difference between being sexually "passionate" and being sexually "obsessive".

Passionate does not = obsessive

I don't see what the problem is.
- August 28th, 2009, 09:20 pm
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I don't see any conflict among the MH/CS statements. I would be worried that she seems preoccupied with the sex statements. There's probably a reason for it, and I suspect it isn't a good one.
- August 28th, 2009, 09:21 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
How do you know I am communicating with her. Sent her my MHCS and am waiting for her to send Second Questions. I am not going to hold out much hope for anything more than a first date because she said that she will have determined "chemistry" within the first few minutes.
Mr. Grtguy08,

We are now into 2009 and this is your year (remember when I teased you about your screenname!) Stop thinking the negative and going in with the negative vibes. You need to find the line of I don't care and enjoy it there. You are a greatguy - be it, believe it and live it. Respect it and they will too.

Love , your friend,

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- August 28th, 2009, 09:24 pm
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One more chick throwing in her 2 cents:

I don't see anything wrong with it. She's saying she's monogamous and affectionate, thinks sex is a healthy part of a relationship, but if that's all you ever want, buy yourself a blowup doll.
- August 28th, 2009, 09:28 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
One more chick throwing in her 2 cents:

I don't see anything wrong with it. She's saying she's monogamous and affectionate, thinks sex is a healthy part of a relationship, but if that's all you ever want, buy yourself a blowup doll.


I luv you,Chawks!! You know I go to Vegas a few times a year. I am looking you up next time!!!
- August 28th, 2009, 09:31 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Now you all know that I am not right bright so interpret this group of MHCS for me. I have a match that has selected these MHCS and to me there is a conflict between them:

Passionate......I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding.

Affectionate......I must have someone who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.

Infidelity......I can't stand someone who engages in sex outside a committed relationship.

So far so good ...

Sexually Obsessed......I can't stand someone who is sexually obsessive.

Seems that there is a conflict here to me. But maybe I am just stoopid
I don't see a conflict.

What her selections tell me is that she's all into the two-step tango with commitment and exclusivity, and she's willing to give as good as she gets in the physical, intimate realm of that monogamous relationship. But those obsessed with sex just for sex sake need not apply.

Of course, I gave my telepathic powers to Sookie on True Blood.
- August 28th, 2009, 09:33 pm
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I luv you,Chawks!! You know I go to Vegas a few times a year. I am looking you up next time!!!
Yea!
- August 28th, 2009, 09:35 pm
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I also may not be able to afford her becasuse she said that she likes four star restaurants.
So she's told you her price. Will you promise to pay up (and make no mistake - if you don't respond to her demand, you've shown her that you're ok with it), or are you going to make her work for your respect?
- August 28th, 2009, 09:42 pm
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melman wrote :
So she's told you her price. Will you promise to pay up (and make no mistake - if you don't respond to her demand, you've shown her that you're ok with it), or are you going to make her work for your respect?
Are there mulligans with friend requests???

She might just like fine dining. People do you know...

Just sayin'...
- August 28th, 2009, 09:48 pm
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