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Myabe I'm a little too picky when it comes to eHarmony, but I also feel like I'm allowed to be picky when it comes to eHarmony. That being said, I receive quite a bit of matches but the ones I want to speak with never respond. I've only actually talked to one person on the phone and that didn't go as planned ....but completely understandable. With you that have had luck,...what do you do?
- August 26th, 2009, 12:49 pm
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I had used eharmony and got to open communication with severalmen, met a few, dated a few and then met "the one"!

Our first meeting was on the afternoon of December 24, 2008 for a cup of coffee. Yes, Christmas Eve! He was sitting in a booth waiting for me and when I sat down and had a small Christmas giftbag for me with a few things he picked up like a box of candy. It was very sweet and our conversation flowed very easily. The time flew by and that led to our first real date a few days later.

Here we are a year and a half later and we are talking about spending the rest of our lives together. He is truly a great match for me and our backgrounds, belief systems, interests are totally in sync. Eharmony did its job for me.

Obviously, I was matched with people who were somewhat compatible, but not anywhere near what I wanted in a lifetime companion. My guy and I was very lucky to be signed up at the same time, looking for each other and having found each other despite his NOT having a photo posted! His sense of humor got me to take a chance on meeting him since his writing had entertained me greatly!

I wish that everyone has the kind of luck that I've found here. The 29 dimensions profile thing works.
- August 26th, 2009, 06:00 pm
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waypoint_finder wrote :
Personally, I think you meet the same shallow losers on eh that you meet at the bars, clubs, bookstore, supermarket, etc. so... why bother paying for it on the internet when you can get it for free?
Honestly waypoint_finder, that's just a generalization that is not true. Now that may be true with your experiences but it's certainly not for every body else otherwise EH would have folded long ago. Now for me, looking for a Christian woman, I'm thinking that my pickings would be pretty slim in the bars and clubs. And hit or miss in a bookstore or supermarket. Here, EH has weeded out for me all the woman that I would never consider dating. THAT makes my job a lot easier!

In fact, I've seen some of your postings. You seem to carry a negativity with you. Maybe the problem hasn't been the "losers" on EH but rather your attitude towards online dating in general. But who am I to say, it's just an observation.
- August 26th, 2009, 07:31 pm
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jcrams wrote :
Myabe I'm a little too picky when it comes to eHarmony, but I also feel like I'm allowed to be picky when it comes to eHarmony. That being said, I receive quite a bit of matches but the ones I want to speak with never respond. I've only actually talked to one person on the phone and that didn't go as planned ....but completely understandable. With you that have had luck,...what do you do?
Dear jcrams,

Actually, I'd go so far as to say that all our members are "picky." What I mean by that is the reason you and all our members came to eHarmony was because you know that our rigorous matching system will provide you only with matches who are highly-compatible with you based on those traits/characteristics proven to be the foundation of successful relationships.

Now that this has been done for you, I would like to recommend that you perhaps be more open-minded about the matches with whom you choose to communicate.

While a match's About Me page and photos can introduce you to a match, they can in no way fully represent who she is. Therefore, I encourage you to initiate communication with most if not all of your matches. There is a reason you recieved each and everyone of them, and it is through communicating that you can determine if a match has the potential to be The One! As always, if something about a match's profile lets you know without a doubt that she can't possibly be the Right One for you, by all means close communication.

Successful members have shared here on Advice and on our Success Stories page that they trusted the process, were open to communicating with most of their matches, and were even sometimes surprised to discover who their soul mate turned out to be! So I encourage you to make the most of your subscription and give yourself the chance to find that special match by communicating with most, if not all, of your highly-compatible matches.

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- August 26th, 2009, 10:03 pm
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Someone asked me to post my profile so others could see what I'm doing that seems to be working. Since I am a Christian and this is important to me, you'll notice that my profile leans heavily in the direction of my relationship with the Lord. So the number of woman that are going to be interested in me is going to be small.
I am going to guess however that the reason for my success is something that is said in my "additional information" section. That I don't want to date just to date and that I only want to be with someone with whom there is a potential for a life long relationship, in other words marriage.

Regardless if I am right or wrong on that, here is my profile. And, 11 days into my experience with eH, I have been matched with 98 women, have been closed out by 12 matches, I have closed out 60. I have 24 woman in my "new matches" section that I am keeping in "reserve" and am in OC with 4 women and stage 3 of GC with 2 women.

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    Also, I added one of the pictures from my eH profile to this eHa profile. You can see that I am far from good looking. (and I could honestly care less at this point) My looks never seemed to interfere with my dating.

    Also, of the 6 women I am in communication with, I initiated 4 and 2 initiated with me.

    Do I have a real answer why I am having good "luck"? Hardly but I sure am having fun!
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