j3ab is offline j3ab Post #1  August 25,2009, 3:01pm
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Hello ... newbie User here! (on eH for 1 month)

I have received several matches outside of my "radius" and I am not willing to move (family! job, friends, etc.) So I am closing the matches with "I think the physical distance between us is too great."

How can I tell if my matches have a larger "radius" and would be willing to move for me?
 
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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #2  August 25,2009, 5:59pm
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Communicate.

You can ask this as one of your long questions.
 
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MicMan is offline MicMan Post #3  August 26,2009, 4:26am
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DDjr wrote :
Communicate.

You can ask this as one of your long questions.
Yup...ask them.
 
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Instead of closing them out - ask them.
 
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Dafearon is offline Dafearon Post #5  August 26,2009, 6:43am
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I actually think that if you are unwilling to move, then you should just set your matches to the distance you're willing to travel.

Personally, I'm with you, I will not move, but at the same time, I don't expect others to uproot their lives for me just to date me. If they do want to do that, I may find that a little suspicious to begin with.
 
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The only way to truely know is to ask.

You don't say how far outside your distance these matches are. If you have your distance set at 30 miles and they are 60 miiles away then this is something that could be worked out easily. However, if they are a true LDR match these are very difficult to make work. Well before either person should consider moving is that you need to get to know each other and that requires actual in person dating.
 
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j3ab is offline j3ab Post #7  August 26,2009, 9:01am
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True! Thank you everyone ... I'll begin asking

btw I'm in CA and my settings are set to 30miles and I get matched with AZ, WA, CO & ID lol
 
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Whenever I get a match where there is mutual interests, I use Google on their city and state to calculate how far away they live from me. Cut and Paste is your friend.
 
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I believe you need to set your distance settings to "very important" to exclude those matches that are farther away from you.
 
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