You Have Reached Your Match Limit


Reply
  • Page 1 of 2
  • 1
  • 2
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #1  August 23,2009, 6:03pm
Wonderwoman40…'s Avatar

L'Chayim!

Virtuoso

Joined: Jan 2009

Omaha, NE

Posts: 4,495

See profile

I am currently a non-paying member of eHarmony. My 1-year membership expired the end of July.

I've left matching on, just to see what comes in (since so little in the way of matches came in while I was a member, I figured why not... if someone really, really interesting showed up I could always re-join.)

I just logged on there for the first time in a few days. One more new match showed up today. I have three "New" matches and five in my "Communicating" file in various stages of stalled communications.

When I logged on I got the following message: You have reached your match limit. View your existing matches to receive more.

I've never seen that before. Is there a limit to the number of matches you can now get as a non-paying member? Does this apply to paying members, too? I viewed the all the existing matches, but that message remains. None of them have sent me 1st questions. I went ahead and sent each of the three an icebreaker.

So... is this all I'm ever going to get?
 
  Reply With Quote
bigfincat is offline bigfincat Post #2  August 23,2009, 6:48pm
bigfincat's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Nov 2008

Posts: 4,077

See profile

I have had that message once before as a paying member.

It does not have to do with total matches because I am sure that I have more matches now than I did then.

They just sometimes won't send you more if still have unviewed ones. I am surprised that it came up within just a few days though.

That was a long time ago & I have never seen the message again.
 
  Reply With Quote
ScottK is offline ScottK Post #3  August 23,2009, 6:50pm
ScottK's Avatar

Veteran

Joined: Nov 2007

PL, Minnesota

Posts: 2,301

See profile

Wonderwoman402 wrote :
I am currently a non-paying member of eHarmony. My 1-year membership expired the end of July.

I've left matching on, just to see what comes in (since so little in the way of matches came in while I was a member, I figured why not... if someone really, really interesting showed up I could always re-join.)

I just logged on there for the first time in a few days. One more new match showed up today. I have three "New" matches and five in my "Communicating" file in various stages of stalled communications.

When I logged on I got the following message: You have reached your match limit. View your existing matches to receive more.

I've never seen that before. Is there a limit to the number of matches you can now get as a non-paying member? Does this apply to paying members, too? I viewed the all the existing matches, but that message remains. None of them have sent me 1st questions. I went ahead and sent each of the three an icebreaker.

So... is this all I'm ever going to get?

Yes, as a non-paying member, they restrict you to a certain amount of matches you can have delivered at any given time.
(This does NOT apply to paying members!)

If you were to Close one of those Matches, you will open up a slot for a new Match to come in.

If one of the Matches in your queue Closes YOU, then they will open a new slot for you to get a new Match to come in.

This brings up an VERY interesting point.

A lot of us paying members Close obvious non-paying Matches that we get.

Technically, when you think about it, we are doing a disservice for all OTHER paying Matches when we do this Close, because we end up opening a new slot for a non-paying member to get delivered to a different paying member.

What we SHOULD be doing, is keeping those bogus Matches open, so that it stops them from being delivered to paying match to paying match, ping-ponging over and over.

Its too bad we can't have a "Purgatory" area where we can put these obvious bogus Matches so that they remain Open, yet don't clutter up our Open area.
 
  Reply With Quote
neardc is offline neardc Post #4  August 23,2009, 6:50pm
neardc's Avatar

Toodles, sayonara, and happy trails! Wishing everyone luck and love...

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Posts: 8,050

See profile

I've always gotten that message when I've been a non-paying member (going back a couple of years). So, it's not a new thing (I've never received it when I've been a paying member, though...).

The limit for non-paying members is something like 10. But, once you review them, you can get more.

I'm guessing that you'll be eligible to get additional matches tomorrow (or tonight; whenever the next time is that you are scheduled to receive them...).
 
  Reply With Quote
neardc is offline neardc Post #5  August 23,2009, 6:53pm
neardc's Avatar

Toodles, sayonara, and happy trails! Wishing everyone luck and love...

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Posts: 8,050

See profile

ScottK wrote :
What we SHOULD be doing, is keeping those bogus Matches open, so that it stops them from being delivered to paying match to paying match, ping-ponging over and over.

Its too bad we can't have a "Purgatory" area where we can put these obvious bogus Matches so that they remain Open, yet don't clutter up our Open area.
Ohhh...that is a very good point. In fact, those are the matches that I actually do close (since it's so easy to make a decision about them).

What was I thinking...lol?
 
  Reply With Quote
Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #6  August 23,2009, 7:11pm
Gr8Guyn2008's Avatar

I'm crippled by the fear That I've fallen too far to love

Sage

Joined: Jan 2008

Orlando, FL

Posts: 19,670

See profile

Wonderwoman402 wrote :
I am currently a non-paying member of eHarmony. My 1-year membership expired the end of July.

I've left matching on, just to see what comes in (since so little in the way of matches came in while I was a member, I figured why not... if someone really, really interesting showed up I could always re-join.)

I just logged on there for the first time in a few days. One more new match showed up today. I have three "New" matches and five in my "Communicating" file in various stages of stalled communications.

When I logged on I got the following message: You have reached your match limit. View your existing matches to receive more.

I've never seen that before. Is there a limit to the number of matches you can now get as a non-paying member? Does this apply to paying members, too? I viewed the all the existing matches, but that message remains. None of them have sent me 1st questions. I went ahead and sent each of the three an icebreaker.

So... is this all I'm ever going to get?

So have you put a note in your profile that you are not a paying member but if someone was to contact you, you would join? Or maybe that you will be available to communicate on the next FCW?
 
  Reply With Quote
Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #7  August 23,2009, 8:03pm
Wonderwoman40…'s Avatar

L'Chayim!

Virtuoso

Joined: Jan 2009

Omaha, NE

Posts: 4,495

See profile

Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
So have you put a note in your profile that you are not a paying member but if someone was to contact you, you would join? Or maybe that you will be available to communicate on the next FCW?
I've only gotten 6 matches (mostly flex-matches) since becoming a non-paying member on July 28, and three of those closed me out right away (fine with me, I wasn't interested in their profiles anyway). The other three have not initiated communication (though one was just delivered today, so we'll see).

I have not seen a need to add those comments to my profile. If a match seemed that great and initiated communication, I'd just go ahead and re-join. I have a full profile and photo posted; I don't see the need at this point to broadcast my non-paying status... how could that possibly be to my advantage?

As for Free Communication Weekends.... I'll just wait until the next one rolls around and start questions to any who are delivered to me who seem interesting enough to get to know. If they don't respond, then I won't have wasted a dime. I suspect there will be a FCW for Labor Day weekend.

After having paid for a full year of eHarmony and meeting ZERO men as a result, I don't see any downside to my current strategy on that site and don't see the need to broadcast that I'm not currently paying. Like I said, if someone compelling enough does come along, I'll just go ahead and pay then.
 
  Reply With Quote
Robert_inSD is offline Robert_inSD Post #8  August 23,2009, 9:14pm
Robert_inSD's Avatar

shares a real nebula photo. St. Valentine goes galactic!

Quick Study

Joined: May 2009

Posts: 145

See profile

I think that promptly viewing and responding with either a contact or a closure, can be a service to all participants. Opening up a contact slot, or progressing to communication for yourself is one obvious bonus. Opening up a contact slot for a non-paying member is also a bonus to both that person and other participants.

Any pairing of introductions can lead to a potential match. If that new introduction is a non-paying participant, but is a real match, they are more likely to re-establish membership to respond. If anyone is not attending to new match introductions with enough frequency, it seems that a match limit is appropriate. However, those that are not actively subscribed need more information about the (necessarily) lower limit, in order to be successfully active within the system of communications.

So, how does this influence the actions to be taken by non-paying participants? First, you are NOT bogus! You are real people, but are not spending money upon searching as much as some others. Your need to decide and act upon new introductions is more immediate. Thus, your investment of personal time is greater, instead of the fees for a paid membership. You will need to allow some time for communication contacts to respond, but will need to keep closing undesired marches, or those with lengthy non-response to your own communication requests.

I think that with this strategy, both you and others will have a greater chance of meeting... THE RIGHT ONE. Why were non-paying participants described (by some) as less than desirable? It was likely because most do not take action or respond to others. The bottom line is, take action, if you want results.
 
  Reply With Quote
bigfincat is offline bigfincat Post #9  August 23,2009, 9:28pm
bigfincat's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Nov 2008

Posts: 4,077

See profile

Somehow I got that message once... & I have never not been a member since I first became one. Perhaps it was when my initial contract was done & before the next payment was processed.

makes no difference to me.
 
  Reply With Quote
melman is offline melman Post #10  August 24,2009, 5:15am
melman's Avatar

Virtuoso

Joined: Aug 2009

Posts: 2,944

See profile

My original subscription ended in mid 2007. I would continue to log in every week or two and see that, even though they were telling me "you have reached your match limit", that they were continuing to match me. The "limit" message appears to be meaningless.

Generally, I would leave new matches unviewed for a month or two before taking a look at them. By doing this, I could see that only 25% of them (or less) would view me.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 1 of 2
  • 1
  • 2


« My pics on eH! Please review! | Using eHarmony | Suggested additional criteria for EH dating site. »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Free Communication Weekend and the Theory of Match Counts ScottK Using eHarmony 19 November 11,2010 11:10am
Is it worth it to re-open a match once you've closed it? M60W2 Using eHarmony 22 January 31,2010 4:37am
re-opening closed matches - by you or your match pussinboots Using eHarmony 7 September 4,2009 7:01pm
Why Am I Receiving This Match? RedhawkGal79 Using eHarmony 18 August 18,2009 5:51am
Match Limit JABuongiorno Using eHarmony 4 June 16,2009 4:15pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“Absolutely not. I have no idea why allowing gays to marry would affect anyone's lives, unless they're sexually insecure about themselves.” –  sun73

Join the “Did our President give up the election for a single issue?” discussion

“I learned that the woman's communication style has to fit mine or else it won't work.” –  sun73

Join the “Why do 40 yr olds still play games?” discussion

“Here's where to email if you think a match might be a fraud: matchconcerns@eharmony.com . Tell them the match's name and location so they can find them. If what's making you suspicious is an email ... ” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “Match from another country...is he a "fraud"?” discussion

“I know you clarified you just want a general opinion on when people bring this subject up, but I'm going to give you both that and also what I believe you should do. The general idea most of the ... ” –  Herkemer

Join the “When is it time to discuss your position on having kids?” discussion

“And that's a very valid point. I get the feeling that eHarmony is keeping their price high to show they they are not cheap and therefore, their members are serious.It seems to me that combining the ... ” –  MicMan

Join the “Free Communication Weekend” discussion

“How long have you all been on EH? Thanks for the advice. I signed on in late April 2012 but have been on other dating sites in the past.” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “New Here” discussion

“The only one that bothers me is the "they weren't his kids so meh ..." But there could be a whole world of story behind that. Like "she dumped me and it was painful and I hated losing the kids in ... ” –  Simplicity-2012

Join the “Yellow flags...To Proceed or not to proceed, that is the question?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 2:08pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0