DenimJohn is offline DenimJohn Post #1  August 22,2009, 9:25am
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I've been a member of this community for about three years now and there is one thing that certain matches do that really bugs the !@#* out of me. People who use "other" when closing off a match. Now maybe I'm old fashioned in that I believe anyone who spends time and money in searching for a mate and who has a soul and feelings deserves an honest answer as to why I chose to close off the match. But apparently some people believe that common courtesy, respect and sensitivity are unnecessary in cyber-space because of the anonymity of the experience and the absence of one-on-one contact. Well, IF this is the kind of lazy person you are who chooses this option because it is the closest to the "close match" button, and you are a person who will take any opportunity to be callous, insensitive and selfish well then THANK YOU for closing off. I wouldn't want to get to know a lazy, narcissistic coward like you anyhow.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #2  August 22,2009, 9:32am
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Oh, calm down.

The reasons they give aren't very good, and there isn't any way to type in a reason of your own. I use "Other" all the time - it simply means "none of the reasons I can choose from apply".

Anyway, it sure beats "I'd rather not say."
 
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Maybe it is the equivalent of " It's not you, its me."
 
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DenimJohn is offline DenimJohn Post #4  August 22,2009, 9:58am
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Out of all the reason that are provided you mean to tell me that none of them are suitable? You can always choose one that is at least close or one that may not be entirely true but it is at least a response with some thought to it, but to use that response is purely lazy and shows a general disregard for other peoples feelings. When I close off I always use "based on the information in this matches profile..." or "there were no pictures..." or "I feel the distance..." or "the difference in our values..." they may not be literary masterpieces but they are pretty descriptive and will generally fit most scenarios. So why don't YOU use them? If you use such a lazy and generic response all the time why are you being so selective about the provided ones? Try to appreciate the impersonal and generic message you are sending to other people and what it might be saying about you.
 
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Oh, calm down. (Didn't I already say that?)

Until eH provides a list with choices like
"Your profile bored me to tears."
"You can't write a coherent sentence."
"I can't be bothered by anyone who thinks 'The Secret' is an important book."

then "Other" is completely appropriate.

Come on, it's just closing a match and picking from a list. It's not a time to get all deep and worried about feelings.
 
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I'm pretty sure that EH doesn't consider it a lazy, impersonal, or generic reason, or they wouldn't have included it. (Do you really think the EH staff sat around a table and said, "We need to put in at least one insensitive and dismissive reason"?)

Yes, it can drive you nuts to be on the receiving end, but sometimes it might be the only one that's suitable. There have been others who've objected to the "I'd rather not say" or the "chemistry" one or the "values" one - really, they're all vague categories. It would bother me to not know exactly which "statements in my profile" were the cause, or which "values" didn't match - we can play guessing (and second-guessing) games with any of the reasons.

Someone once suggested that "other", being closest to the close button (is it?), is the easiest to click. Maybe so.

*shrug* Why does it really matter? The person isn't interested, they closed, and we move on to another match.
 
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melman wrote :
Oh, calm down. (Didn't I already say that?)

Until eH provides a list with choices like
"Your profile bored me to tears."
"You can't write a coherent sentence."
"I can't be bothered by anyone who thinks 'The Secret' is an important book."

then "Other" is completely appropriate.

Come on, it's just closing a match and picking from a list. It's not a time to get all deep and worried about feelings.
eH needs more choices like:

You're too fat.
You're too short.
You're too ugly.
You're too stupid.
 
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Dear John, none of the answers supplied are adequate for these people because they really don't care. If you think about it, it's immediately discouraging, but in the long run you are much better off because you haven't wasted your time on an insensitive loser. The next time you see "match closed" equate it with "bonus points" for happy dating in the future.
 
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melman wrote :
Oh, calm down. (Didn't I already say that?)

Until eH provides a list with choices like
"Your profile bored me to tears."
"You can't write a coherent sentence."
"I can't be bothered by anyone who thinks 'The Secret' is an important book."

then "Other" is completely appropriate.

Come on, it's just closing a match and picking from a list. It's not a time to get all deep and worried about feelings.
Ha! Ha! I agree and three years is enough time to figure out all close reasons mean the same thing - No.
 
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