empress_c is offline empress_c Post #21  August 23,2009, 2:47pm
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Still not sure on sum editing and pruff reeding, but I'm beginning to question my own sanity just looking at all those smilies - I'm blinking at twice the sane speed...
Those aren't smilies, those are rejecting matches' frownies, except the last one. It's OK, I understand everything looks different Down Under. (Or is it ????)
 
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trixie1868 wrote :
You're right Ice Cream Moon!

"other" protects us from lunatics. I'm convinced; let us be thankful for "other" in all it's glorious blandness!

Hmmm... can you please read my name again?
I don't think you meant to say that, or did you?
 
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empress_c wrote :
Those aren't smilies, those are rejecting matches' frownies, except the last one. It's OK, I understand everything looks different Down Under. (Or is it ????)
True
But also, don't forget the power of seeing only what you want to see and blatantly disregarding the rest!

If I want to see smilies, I will very well see smilies, regardless of where I am physically located!
Simply because i do not like the look of frownies , even on eha, for I much prefer the taste of chocolate brownies, with hazelnut .
Make what you will of it...

And Good Luck, of course (I think )!
 
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I was going to start a new thread on this subject. because the "other" thing is bothering me, too.

Look, I've read all the past musings on why people choose this, and while it's nice to give your ego a boost by pretending that it's "easier" just to pick "other" rather than put some thought in it, that isn't doing yourself any favors. The profiles are so skeletal at eharmony that it's silly to think many people are making decisions based on what's written instead of what's posted in the photo section. If someone's closing you out, chances are, it's because they don't like what they see.

It makes me realize that eharmony isn't as much above being a picture site as it claims.

I wonder if anyone's ever experimented with removing their pictures to see if the incidence/ratio of "other" closings is as high as it is with pictures.
 
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what the bejeezus is going on round here?!

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I know I'm going to regret this but Ice Cream Moon / Icecreammoon? What? the spaces?
 
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Well they didn't have a choice for "wow you're so angry and bitter it scares me", so "other" will have to suffice.
 
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I used to think negatively about "other" but now I think that it is pretty good.

There are some reasons that are not covered under anything other statement & the reasoning behind the close could be a lot of things.

I know that over the times that I have used it there have been more & more reasons other than photo that prompted the close.

It honestly does not have to mean anything negative about the person being closed.

You might be amazed at how differently people go about using online dating than you do.
 
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Well they didn't have a choice for "wow you're so angry and bitter it scares me", so "other" will have to suffice.
Funny.
 
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Spare me. A close is a close and nobody takes it personally. These are just people you don't know who don't want to know you. Perhaps the available close choices seem adequate to you but to many they are sorely lacking. How about 'speaks in text' or 'stopped communication two months ago'. Clearly not all true scenarios can be tweeked from the rubble of check off items in the list. 'Other' is actually kind and respectful since there is no value judgement like in 'I'd rather not say'. Move forward and have a good time remembering that it beats your mother or brother fixing you up.
 
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Fist of all to answer a few of the other posters on this site I am neither an angry or bitter person, only when it comes to this subject. But in truth I've come to realize that this one topic is only the culmination of my overall frustration with the EH experience. In fact I have many issues with it. And while reading some of the other threads I can see that a lot of people have similar issues. I can honestly say that it has not been a very positive experience over all. The ratio of paying to non-paying customers makes finding any person of value very, very frustrating. For this reason and many others I am closing off my matching. It seems I am not well suited to this virtual dating nonsense. I prefer to meet women "IRL" (as you might say). In fact I have met someone "IRL" and I want to focus on that.

Ultimately the choice to use "other" is a personal one and one I choose not to use. So I apologize for having consideration for peoples feelings and wanting to ensure that they have a positive experience at least with me. Maybe I'm being overly sensitive about it or maybe it's just the golden rule rearing it's ugly head again. Who knows.

I also don't apologize for anything I wrote in my post. I may have been frustrated and angry but I also expressed it in an articulate and creative way. And anger is a good thing as long as it is expressed in a healthy way. It also brings change.

Good luck to all and I can personally assure each of you that I will never use "other" on anyone. IRL or here.
 
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