pussinboots is offline pussinboots Post #1  August 21,2009, 8:58am
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Those who have read the threads I've started know that I don't - well usually don't - complain and also try to find a topic that hasn't been covered before.

However I find something that is really getting ridiculous.

I have written that I think that 90 to 95% of new matches are non-payers. I think I guessed too low. I decided to count today. It turns out that of my most recent 41 matches not counting one who closed me for reason of distance although she lived close by - lol - and one - most likely previously closed by me - anonymous view, no one, NO ONE else has viewed me. No One.

And I had been thinking, good, I'm getting a few matches again.
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #2  August 21,2009, 9:39am
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Don't know how long you have been on eHarmony but 41 matches is not very many. I was on eHarmony for 7 1/2 months before I got my first match that would communicate. The Who's Viewed Me feature was not available then

Also don't know where you live, so if you live in a more rural area your likely match pool is going to be smaller than if you live in a large city. Your matches that live in a larger city are going to have more choices close by and they can see where you live without ever viewing your profile.
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #3  August 21,2009, 10:02am
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Yikes! How long did you wait to give them a chance to view you before including them in your sample?

Unless you closed the anonymous view after you saw it in the list, then that's someone who viewed you. So, "yay!"; one person viewed you...lol (2 if you count the one who closed you).
 
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Gr8G, I was talking about my most Recent 41 matches.

neardc, these matches were on for various lenghts of time including a number I tried to start GC with and some I even have as "new" now. The anonymous view almost certainly was someone I had closed in the past. Whatever way you choose to look at it - and matches I've closed could always view me afterwards - that is a ridiculous number of total views.
 
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I think - just think - that if a match has closed you, they will not show in your "viewed me" category. It doesn't make sense that they can close unless they are viewing the profile.

Disclaimer: I haven't had matching active for over a year now, so I don't remember.
 
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Hi There - I have only been active for a few weeks and find that about 20% open my profile. Dont know about everyone else but rightnow I get 7 matches each night though I suspect that number shrinks as I am with the service longer. I did not think to google for reviews before I signed up (what a dummy!) so I did not know until a couple days ago that non-subscribers (and old subscribers) stay in the database. I have definetely had matches closed on me without my profile opened - I assume it is distance (they do see city) or perhaps they are actively seeing someone. Or maybe they don't like my name? Hard to know....

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Spider wrote :
I think - just think - that if a match has closed you, they will not show in your "viewed me" category. It doesn't make sense that they can close unless they are viewing the profile.

Disclaimer: I haven't had matching active for over a year now, so I don't remember.
You're right, but they're not closing me either!

Actually, ONE of my new matches yesterday did look at me and ONE of my seven new matches today looked at me.
 
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When I logged onto eharmony to take the 'free' personality profile, I did not realize that I would automatically begin receiving matches.

Knowing I wasn't ready to sign-up for the service, I thought it was very unfair to the people who were being matched to me. I had to hack around the website until I figured out how to politely close those matches (note: "I'm not a paying member yet" was not a choice so I had to choose the "I'm too busy to date right now" option) and how to turn my account off so that I would not receive any new matches.

I understand the marketing behind the call to allow non-paying members to view their matches, an attempt to exploit the what-if-this-is-my-soul-mate-and-I-blow-the-chance-to-meet-him/her-and-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-alone dreamers out there, but I think it is disrespectful of paying members' time to send them a match who is a non-paying member. I don't think eH should be matching non-paying members even if it is an effective marketing strategy for them.

I was hoping maybe those matches I received were just imaginary profiles created by eH--not real people with real emotions.

OP, I'm sure I'm not the only one who has had this experience. I would think that quite a few of your potential matches could be non-paying members who like me were just checking out eH for the first time to see what it was all about.
 
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Newlysingle is offline Newlysingle Post #9  August 22,2009, 8:27am
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I tried the free communication weekend in July to see if it was worth paying for a membership. I got lots of matches, but no communication. I asked why it doesn't show the last time the person logged in, or if they were even a member, but eharmony said they didn't have that capability. Even Yahoo can tell you if the person has logged in recently. For all I knew the matches hadn't been in there for months or longer. I decided not to join, I am back in there as a free to look subscriber, still not sure that I will pay the $ to join. What good are 15 matches if they aren't actively looking for a match?
 
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