Revised my profile and zero contact..did I screw it up??


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dz1234 is offline dz1234 Post #1  August 21,2009, 7:04am
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I recently revised my profile and have had zero communication. Is there something wrong?? The pic I have in my thread heading is the my primary photo (you can see it much better in my profle), I also have two more. Thanks for any advice anyone can offer!

What are you most passionate about?
I am passionate about US history. I love visiting museums, plantations, old civil war battle fields, etc. I sometimes find myself lost in thought about how people lived hundreds of years ago.
What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?
Health
Happiness
My family and friends
Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
I would have to say my Grandmother. She has always been strong and loving toward me and continues to support anything I do. She also taught me to be a kind person and never judge people.
The four things your friends say about you are
· Happy
· Easy-Going
· Loyal
· Optimistic
What are three of your BEST life-skills?
· Using humor to make friends laugh
· Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
· Being a good friend and companion
What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?
Honesty and the ability to communicate. I know that is two, but I feel they are both important and the foundation for a strong stable relationship.
Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?
That I like to joke and laugh with people. I try not to take life too seriously; you only get to live it once.
What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?
Tough to answer that, I don't try to hide anything about myself so what you see is what I am.
How do you typically spend your leisure time?
Working off my dog's energy with long games of fetch.
Swimming in my pool or with friends on the lake in warm weather.
I also like to jump in the car and drive to the mountains or lakes to enjoy the scenery the South Carolina upstate has to offer.
What are five things that you "can't live without?"
Sunny cool fall days
My dog Oliver
College football Saturdays
A hot grill and good wine
The changing of seasons
Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?
I'm more of a magazine reader; sports, men's health, etc.
Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friends know.
I have the innate ability of learning lessons the hard way. For example, never ever put Dawn dish washing liquid in your dishwasher!!
Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?
I am a transplanted Yankee from PA and I am a huge Steeler fan!
 
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melman is offline melman Post #2  August 21,2009, 7:31am
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I don't know how you put your post together. But it's full of gibberish and smileys (after every sentence) that I don't think you intended.

Please don't fall into the trap of endlessly editing your profile, removing words and what you perceive to be rough edges. You'll end up with something bland and boring that doesn't represent you well at all. Many of us have fallen into this trap. The reason you're not getting the "action" you want is that most of your matches are old accounts and trial members that didn't sign up. They're not warm bodies. Allow for some time for actual customers to be matched with you.
 
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dz1234 wrote :
I recently revised my profile and have had zero communication. Is there something wrong?? The pic I have in my thread heading is the my primary photo (you can see it much better in my profle), I also have two more. Thanks for any advice anyone can offer!
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The implication is that before revising your profile you were getting communication. Is this correct?

I really don't see anything that would be a bad thing in your profile but of course it will better when some of the ladies review it and comment.

If you have never been getting much communication then that would be because most of your matches are going to be non-paying members who can't communicate.

Are you sending First Questions? Are your matches viewing your profile? Are your matches closing you without communicating?
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #4  August 21,2009, 9:53am
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What Melman said. A profile needs to reflect who you are, whoever you may be so don't turn it into something that does not reflect you. You sound like a normal man in your profile and that's a good thing in my book.

About the only thing that raised an eyebrow for me is "learning lessons the hard way" - comes across as if you are irrationally stubborn. If that's accurate - leave it in. If not, this is a good spot to show that humor you say you have and tell a funny story.
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #5  August 21,2009, 10:23am
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I like your profile. It gives a sense of you as a person and shows a sense of humor. I would find you appealing if you showed up in my inbox (although wonder how someone so much younger was matched with me...haha).

A couple of little things...

I can't quite tell because of the coding that crept in when you pasted your profile, but in the item about leisure time, I think it says "the South Carolina has..." instead of "that" South Carolina has...

In the item re: your grandmother, you might want to say "not to judge" instead of "never" to judge becaue we all do judge others at times (and appropriately so). Or, you could qualify the statement to say what she taught you not to judge people on (this is not at all a major issue, though!).

You've got two weather-related items in your can't live withouts, so if there is something else you would like to add there is room to do that (but, it's also fine as is). Some women may react negatively to your having Oliver as one of the items in the list, but there are also plenty of dog lovers out there who will relate.

Bottom line: It's not your profile!

Your pic looks fine to me, too, although I hope that you have it cropped in more closely like you do in your avatar here instead of how it appears in your photo album; if not, crop it and repost it on your eH profile.

Good luck with getting past your dry spell!
 
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With the exception of the smilies, your profile is nice and thoughtful. Give it some time. I don't even remember to last time I received a communication request. If it is any consolation, I'd request communication based on what you wrote(minus the smilies haha).
 
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organizedmayhem is offline organizedmayhem Post #7  August 21,2009, 6:27pm
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Sounds good to me. Honestly, after awhile, these profiles all seem to look alike. That being said, I think yours stands out from many I've read because you seem to reflect more of who you really are and less of the stuff people put in their profiles that they "think" will appeal to whomever reads it.
 
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user1972 is offline user1972 Post #8  August 21,2009, 8:44pm
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I think it sounds great! You know sometimes I get little interest in my profile and sometimes I get a ton and I haven't changed it at all. I think in your case it may have more to do with having inactive matches right now and less to do with your profile. Maybe you want to check your match settings and see if they are too narrow? Otherwise just be patient and wait a couple weeks. ~ Good Luck!
 
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