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GypsyWillow is offline GypsyWillow Post #1  August 21,2009, 1:49am
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Well below is my profile. After putting it here it looks wordy to me, but it does not look that way on eHarmony. I joined on 8/10/09 and this is my very first dating profile I have ever had to create so PLEASE don't be too harsh with me with my mistakes. I will tell you in advance that I appreciate you time and input and if you can remember please tell me how long you have been on eHarmony, if on a different site, how long there. I'm just curious. Thanks in advance and here goes.

1. What are you most passionate about?

I am passionate about my family, my spiritual beliefs, music ,and stargazing. I like motorcycles, boating and off road vehicles. I love camping and am also a rock hound. I love ghost towns, anything to do with exploroing the outdoors. I love swimming in rivers and lakes and also love fishing. I love pleasing people and seeing that big smile on their face that tells me that I have succeded. There are so many things in this big world that there is no way that I could narrow it down to just 1 or 2 things or words. I guess you could say I am passionate about life but that would seem so vague.

2. What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

1. I am thankful for my family and my wonderful son who has grown into a respectful and honorable young man whom I am very proud of.
2. I am thankful for my health and take nothing for granted when it comes to health issues.
3. I am thankful for being an American and living in this awesome Country the United States of America.

3. Other then your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

My 1st step-mother who is an Aries like myself. She relates and understands me now and did as a child as well. She became a mentor to me years ago and remains one to this day. She has taught me much in life about myself and about life. She stood by me when nobody else would through my worst and my best. She has survived breast cancer, my father and so much more. She is very wise.

4. The four things your friends say about you are?

*Generous
*Easy-Going
*Good-Listener
*Thoughtful

5. What are three of your BEST life-skills?

*Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
*Helping those who are less fortunate or in need
*Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings

6. What is the most important quality you are looking for in another person?

There is not just one quality, but a few that I look for in a person. One who is able to communicate, that is honest, trustworthy and stable.

7. Other then your appearance, what is the first thing people notice about you?

I would have to be my sensitivity. I am very sensitive when it comes to people it’s almost as if I can read people in some way. Are they out of sorts? Are they uncomfortable here? Is their mind preoccupied? Is this conversation of interest to them? I am sensitive to this and try to do what I can to make the situations I am involved with more harmoneous for all. I would never expect for people to pick up on this, understand or realize the depth of my perception.

8. What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

Sincerity and sense of humor

9. How do you typically spend your leisure time?

In my leisure time I like to go on my computer for research as well as entertainment, I like to TV too. I also like to spend time with my animals. My mother lives next to us on our family farm and I will often walk over visit with her to keep her company. I also like to go to the movies, out to dinner or to the races. In addition, I like to camp, fish and swim among other things that have to do with the outdoors. In bad weather I like to do beading, needle point and other craft type activities. I also tend to read more in the winter.

10. What are five things that you "can't live without?"

a. My family
b. My pets
c. Honesty from my friends and those who surround me.
d. The outdoors
e. Relationship-monogamous been w/o this-want change

11. Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

"The Hot Zone" by Richard Preston
I enjoyed the intrigue and suspense the writer portrayed as he wrote about a virulent outbreak of an unknown agent which gets loose and battle to attempt to contain it and the true fear it creates in the reader with the potential that there some truth and a potential reality of this happening in this day and age.

12. Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friends know.

That I do not yell, argue, or fight as a resolution to conflict. I utilize more constructive methods of communication and active listening to resolve conflicts and avoid stress . If you actually do hear me raise my voice it is most likely to get control of or to be heard over a group of children or similar situation.

13. Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?

I do not partake in one night stands nor am not looking for that. I feel that sex in a relationship happens once trust has been established and it is mutually agreed that there is potential for something special and that there is chemistry on both sides. If in fact you're looking for a one night stand, I'm not your girl. (I possibly should have left this out, but oh well my intentions are known).
 
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Somebody please critique. Please just be construtive and not mean and nasty. If I need to make some changes I would like to know.
 
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GypsyWillow wrote :
Caveat: this is a female opinion so take it with a grain of salt.

1. What are you most passionate about?

I am passionate about my family, my spiritual beliefs, music ,and stargazing. I like motorcycles, boating and off road vehicles. I love camping and am also a rock hound. I love ghost towns, anything to do with exploroing the outdoors. I love swimming in rivers and lakes and also love fishing. I love pleasing people and seeing that big smile on their face that tells me that I have succeded. There are so many things in this big world that there is no way that I could narrow it down to just 1 or 2 things or words. I guess you could say I am passionate about life but that would seem so vague.

2. What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

1. I am thankful for my family and my wonderful son who has grown into a respectful and honorable young man whom I am very proud of.
2. I am thankful for my health and take nothing for granted when it comes to health issues. Come across as if you have serious health issues
3. I am thankful for being an American and living in this awesome Country the United States of America.

3. Other then your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

My 1st step-mother who is an Aries like myself. Might want to leave off the horoscope part. She relates and understands me now and did as a child as well. She became a mentor to me years ago and remains one to this day. She has taught me much in life about myself and about life. She stood by me when nobody else would through my worst and my best. She has survived breast cancer, my father she survived your father? This can be read two ways - either your father is now deceased and she outlived him or you think your father is a bad person and she survived that - might want to clarify this part and so much more. She is very wise.

4. The four things your friends say about you are?

*Generous
*Easy-Going
*Good-Listener
*Thoughtful

5. What are three of your BEST life-skills?

*Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
*Helping those who are less fortunate or in need
*Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings

6. What is the most important quality you are looking for in another person?

There is not just one quality, but a few that I look for in a person. One who is able to communicate, that is honest, trustworthy and stable.

7. Other then your appearance, what is the first thing people notice about you?

I would have to be my sensitivity. I am very sensitive when it comes to people it’s almost as if I can read people in some way. Are they out of sorts? Are they uncomfortable here? Is their mind preoccupied? Is this conversation of interest to them? I am sensitive to this and try to do what I can to make the situations I am involved with more harmoneous for all. I would never expect for people to pick up on this, understand or realize the depth of my perception. This is just plain odd - the question is what is the first thing people notice about you. Your answer is bragging about personal perception and how people don't pick up on that about you. Might want to rethink what the question is asking and how to answer it.

8. What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?

Sincerity and sense of humor People don't notice that you are sincere and have a sense of humor? Looks like the above answer belongs down here and this belongs above. I still think bragging about personal perception is a poor answer - we all read body language and tone and pick up on things you described.

9. How do you typically spend your leisure time?

In my leisure time I like to go on my computer for research as well as entertainment, I like to watch TV too. I also like to spend time with my animals. What animals? This could raise a flag that you have 20 cats. My mother lives next to us on our family farm and I will often walk over visit with her to keep her company. I would leave this out as it can be interpreted in a negative way. You can tell him about this later on when he is not as likely to jump to bad conclusion and close you out. I also like to go to the movies, out to dinner or to the races. In addition, I like to camp, fish and swim among other things that have to do with the outdoors. In bad weather I like to do beading, needle point and other craft type activities. This can also be read the wrong way - comes across as a little grannyish and may cause a man to jump to conclusions you don't want. I also tend to read more in the winter.

10. What are five things that you "can't live without?"

a. My family
b. My pets
c. Honesty from my friends and those who surround me.
d. The outdoors
e. Relationship-monogamous been w/o this-want change This sounds very desperate.....and also odd wording...do you mean you've been without a relationship or do you mean you've been in non-monogamous relationships and now what to change that????

11. Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

"The Hot Zone" by Richard Preston
I enjoyed the intrigue and suspense the writer portrayed as he wrote about a virulent outbreak of an unknown agent which gets loose and battle to attempt to contain it and the true fear it creates in the reader with the potential that there some truth and a potential reality of this happening in this day and age.

12. Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friends know.

That I do not yell, argue, or fight as a resolution to conflict. I utilize more constructive methods of communication and active listening to resolve conflicts and avoid stress . If you actually do hear me raise my voice it is most likely to get control of or to be heard over a group of children or similar situation. Only your best friends know this? Definitely rethink this answer. Also, saying that you yell at kids to get control is a really bad mental image. I know what you are getting at, but again, people read things so fast and jump to negative conclusions even faster - not something you want on your profile.

13. Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?

I do not partake in one night stands nor am not looking for that. I feel that sex in a relationship happens once trust has been established and it is mutually agreed that there is potential for something special and that there is chemistry on both sides. If in fact you're looking for a one night stand, I'm not your girl. (I possibly should have left this out, but oh well my intentions are known). You absolutely should leave this out. If I was a man, a line like this would make me run. Why? Because you are very defensive and already assume that any man who is trying to get to know you is just automatically looking for a one night stand - that's really insulting. If I want to talk to you I have to overcome this attitude - why bother, there are nicer women with fewer issues out there.
I hope this helps, and again, do take it with a grain of salt since at the end of the day your profile needs to reflect who you are and not what I think.
 
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Thank you DancingFool I will definately be making some changes. I see your point.

2. I am thankful for my health and take nothing for granted when it comes to health issues. Come across as if you have serious health issues I Do.

I will do some editing and re-post it for further review and critique.
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I hope some of these changes are better.


1. What are you most passionate about?

I am passionate about my family, my spiritual beliefs, music ,and stargazing. I like motorcycles, boating and off road vehicles. I love camping and am also a rock hound. I love ghost towns, anything to do with exploring the outdoors. I love swimming in rivers and lakes and also love fishing. I love pleasing people and seeing that big smile on their face that tells me that I have succeeded. There are so many things in this big world that there is no way that I could narrow it down to just 1 or 2 things or words. I guess you could say I am passionate about life but that would seem so vague.

2. What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?

1. I am thankful for my family and my wonderful son who has grown into a respectful and honorable young man whom I am very proud of.
2. I am thankful for my health and take nothing for granted when it comes to health issues.
3. I am thankful for being an American and living in this awesome Country the United States of America.

3. Other then your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?

My 1st step-mother who is an Aries like myself. Might want to leave off the horoscope part. She relates and understands me now and did as a child as well. She became a mentor to me years ago and remains one to this day. She has taught me much in life about myself and about life. She stood by me when nobody else would through my worst and my best. She has survived breast cancer and so much more. She is very wise and educated woman.

4. The four things your friends say about you are?

*Generous
*Easy-Going
*Good-Listener
*Thoughtful

5. What are three of your BEST life-skills?

*Continuing to expand my knowledge and awareness
*Helping those who are less fortunate or in need
*Communicating my innermost thoughts and feelings

6. What is the most important quality you are looking for in another person?

There is not just one quality, but a few that I look for in a person. One who is able to communicate, that is honest, trustworthy and stable.

7. Other then your appearance, what is the first thing people notice about you?

I would have to say sincerity and sense of humor.


8. What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?


That I am very sensitive.

9. How do you typically spend your leisure time?


In my leisure time I like to go on my computer for research as well as entertainment, I like to watch TV too. I also like to spend time with my animals, I have a Shih Tzu, Clyde who is about 10 years old and a German Shepherd, Zeus who is about 8 months old. In addition between my son and I we have 3 cats, Calypso, Taz and Jasper. I also like to go to the movies, out to dinner or to the Sprint Car races. In addition, I like to camp, fish and swim among other things that have to do with the outdoors.

10. What are five things that you "can't live without?"


a. My family
b. My pets
c. Honesty from my friends and those who surround me.
d. The outdoors
e. Living in the Pine Trees

11. Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?

"The Hot Zone" by Richard Preston

I enjoyed the intrigue and suspense the writer portrayed as he wrote about a virulent outbreak of an unknown agent which gets loose and battle to attempt to contain it and the true fear it creates in the reader with the potential that there some truth and a potential reality of this happening in this day and age.

12. Describe one thing about yourself that only your best friends know.

The depth of my honesty.


13. Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?


That I am an assertive woman who is and has been financially responsible for myself for as long as I can recall. I take life seriously and been told that I am “deep”., but know how to be spontaneous and have fun too.
 
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GypsyWillow wrote :
10. What are five things that you "can't live without?"

a. My family
b. My pets
c. Honesty from my friends and those who surround me.
d. The outdoors
e. Relationship-monogamous been w/o this-want change
Ditch #5e - comes across as needy or desperate.
 
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WoolyOrl wrote :
Ditch #5e - comes across as needy or desperate.
As well as confusing and poorly worded.
 
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does use a lot of words, but i think it's quite all right. it's specific to you, but open. i like your #1 because it says what motivates you without coming at it from a position of want.

i do find the appearance of the phrases, "expanding awareness" and "being thankful for being an American," together in the same profile, a little difficult. not that one can't love one's country and find things to love about other countries or something - but these are buzz phrases, and the convention is to pick one or the other to announce what social tribe you belong to.
 
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13. Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?

I do not partake in one night stands nor am not looking for that. I feel that sex in a relationship happens once trust has been established and it is mutually agreed that there is potential for something special and that there is chemistry on both sides. If in fact you're looking for a one night stand, I'm not your girl. (I possibly should have left this out, but oh well my intentions are known). You absolutely should leave this out. If I was a man, a line like this would make me run. Why? Because you are very defensive and already assume that any man who is trying to get to know you is just automatically looking for a one night stand - that's really insulting. If I want to talk to you I have to overcome this attitude - why bother, there are nicer women with fewer issues out there.

I can understand where she is coming from on this. But as a guy I am not going to run from this statement. It does state what you are looking for, your values and selfworth. Seems that any guy that is going to run from this is not going to be a guy that you are going to be interested in anyway. I think that it is fine to leave this in your profile, if you feel that DancingFool has a valid concern then you may want to reword it so that it comes across less strong. Not all guys are looking to hop into the sack right away and they know who they are and are looking for a girl with similar values.
 
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Thank you DancingFool I will definately be making some changes. I see your point.

2. I am thankful for my health and take nothing for granted when it comes to health issues. Come across as if you have serious health issues I Do.

I will do some editing and re-post it for further review and critique.
I am not sure about this suggestion so maybe some others will give their opinions. If you have serious health problems it may be appropriate to mention them somewhere in your profile.
 
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