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smashingovi is offline smashingovi Post #1  August 19,2009, 7:49pm
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This has happened to me a few times now. If I have a match that prefers FastTrack then that is the method that I will use to communicate with them.

I send them a quick message with my request for fasttrack and then I receive a message in my email account that my fasttrack request was accepted. The problem is that the women that have accepted the fasttrack tend not to send me a message after they have accepted the fasttrack. My first thought is that I am dealing with some flaky girls. Why accept the fasttrack invitation if you never respond to my first message? Am I supposed to send another message thanking the ladies for accepting my fasttrack invite?

Now I am wondering if this is a system glitch with using fasttrack. Are the ladies only seeing that I requested fasttrack but not receiving my initial open communication email? Anybody else run into this issue?
 
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It may be that they are not aware that there is a message waiting for them once they accept the Fast Track request. I would send another message.
 
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Your success could be related to the content of your initial message. Are you just saying, "Hi. Want to talk?" or are you writing a first communication that will be interesting and get the ball rolling? I know it is hard to write that first message to someone you don't know, but they may also be sitting there wondering how to get started. Send another message with something for them to chew on. If they don't respond to that, close because they failed to respond to your communication as the reason.
 
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librarybabe wrote :
Your success could be related to the content of your initial message. Are you just saying, "Hi. Want to talk?" or are you writing a first communication that will be interesting and get the ball rolling? I know it is hard to write that first message to someone you don't know, but they may also be sitting there wondering how to get started. Send another message with something for them to chew on. If they don't respond to that, close because they failed to respond to your communication as the reason.
Exactly! I get OC messages from matches all the time that are just a few words. "Hey want to talk?" How the heck do you respond to that? I would ask a question or two about their profile and share something about yourself so you have something to talk about.
 
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Exactly! I get OC messages from matches all the time that are just a few words. "Hey want to talk?" How the heck do you respond to that? I would ask a question or two about their profile and share something about yourself so you have something to talk about.
E-harmony tells you to keep the initial message with the fasttrack request short. That being said my first message is more than just a hello. I do ask them specific questions about their profile so that they know that I have taken the time to read through it.

It just seems odd to me that someone would accept my fasttrack but then not respond to the message I sent. Again, that's why I am thinking that maybe they don't realize that I have sent them a message.
 
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Exactly! I get OC messages from matches all the time that are just a few words. "Hey want to talk?" How the heck do you respond to that? I would ask a question or two about their profile and share something about yourself so you have something to talk about.
Being the smartasp that I am, I would respond with "So go anhead and talk". If they respond with some questions to me and / or information about themselves, fine. If they close me for being a smartasp then that is fine too as they have shown their true colors and that we are not compatible.
 
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I agree~try again but ask something that can be answered.Not just can we talk either.Ask questions that show you're interested...good luck!
 
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