Why so many non-responsive men?


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SleeplessinTrenton is offline SleeplessinTrenton Post #11  August 20,2009, 10:21pm
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On several occasions, I received an odd message from matches: a few women sent me something that said "match requests communication" or something to that effect. I thought that that was pretty bizarre. These women could have started the guided communication process with me but didn't. These women could have initiated open communication with me (something indicated as a preference in my profile) but didn't. Instead of doing one or the other, they asked me to reach out to them. Every time that that happend, I closed the match immediately--and this was the only circumstance in which I ever closed a match.

Maybe someone could help me to understand what these women were thinking. If they wanted to communicate with me, why didn't they do so?
 
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This is common unfortunately...I give a match 5 days to respond, after that is it closed. I don't care how busy they are, if they can't respond in 5 days then it is obvious that finding someone is not a priority in their lives and I don't really wish to date such people anyway They should just do themselves and everyone a favor and get off the site.

I find it a complete joke that people claim to be so busy, I myself am an extremely busy person between not only my job but also I have a multitude of hobbies, YET I make the time to respond to all my matches.
 
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I'm new to EH and I'm discovering that I too am have a lot of non-response issues. I have sent first questions to one person and it's been almost a month. I have also sent 10 or 12 icebreakers, although I'm finding out that's an indicator for being a non-paying member! It's a learning process. I'm in Montana so the amount of matches I receive is far below what a more urban area (I can only assume) would receive. I plan on communicating (with first questions!) to every single match I get and I'm thinking a month sounds like a reasonable amount of time to wait for a response, allowing for vacations and schedules. I agree with the comment that we're all busy....if it's important you'll make the time!

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It seems like the general thought is waiting from a week to a month for a match to respond to communication is appropriate for on-line dating. I prefer the 1-2 week waiting period. I also lead a busy life, but I'm on eH for a reason. It doesn't make good numbers sense to not to send out first questions to a new match and respond to questions sent my way. From strictly a financial point of view, these non-responsive matches are wasting their money by sitting on their profiles waiting for the perfect match to magically appear in the inbox.

Does anyone know if nonmembers can view a match. I wonder because several of my new matches keep viewing me, but don't respond to first questions. Silly me for thinking this, but if you are interested enough to keep looking at my profile, just answer the questions already!
 
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I think it's okay for EH to match up the subscribers with the non-subscribers, but I really believe that EH should tag the non-subscribers in some way so that paying customers can identify them and gauge their expectations accordingly.
 
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From many posts i've read here seems this is a common problem and i think EH should have a solution to not let people wait so long to have a response from matches.I gave up on EH sometime ago,i am just still there because i did a 3 month subscription that i regreat i did honestly.For me this is not working, i didn't met any potential date and besides that i have the distance thing lol....I had better chances and made a few good friends in some other free sites actually.
I just think something is not working in EH system...maybe they need to change it???we are always in progress lol
 
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Craftygirl wrote :
It seems like the general thought is waiting from a week to a month for a match to respond to communication is appropriate for on-line dating. I prefer the 1-2 week waiting period. I also lead a busy life, but I'm on eH for a reason. It doesn't make good numbers sense to not to send out first questions to a new match and respond to questions sent my way. From strictly a financial point of view, these non-responsive matches are wasting their money by sitting on their profiles waiting for the perfect match to magically appear in the inbox.

Does anyone know if nonmembers can view a match. I wonder because several of my new matches keep viewing me, but don't respond to first questions. Silly me for thinking this, but if you are interested enough to keep looking at my profile, just answer the questions already!
You should read the thread I started yesterday about non-views. Now, I'm not seeing any purpose in trying to start GC with anyone who hasn't viewed me, even perhaps anonymously. I did start GC with one who viewed me yesterday and another one today. [Of course, that's still only two views out of the nearly 50 latest new matches.]

In answer to your question, nonmembers can view your profile but never any photos, even during the a free comm. weekend.

Also I had someone [another thread I started] view me eight out of the first 13 days and never respond to GC at the beginning or later a nudge. I gave her more than enough time, but finally closed her. When I went recently to check on her in the closed section, it said her profile was no longer available. Interesting.
 
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