therecanbeonlyone is offline therecanbeonlyone Post #1  August 19,2009, 3:52pm
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This is becoming very suspect now.For the fourth time now I have gotten to the final stage of communication only to have that person just up and vanish.Whats wierd is that there was very steady contact as far as the other stages.I would get at least one response sometimes two or even three in one day.Then all of the sudden nothing,zip.I'm starting to smell conspiracy here.Does anyone else have this problem?I havent said anything rude or indecent to any of these matches,I just dont get it. They are full of compliments and haven't said anything to me to lead me to believe I wasn't what they expected.It's not like I dont have a ton of pictures up either.
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #2  August 19,2009, 4:05pm
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A conspiracy...hmmmmm...I very seriously doubt it. It sounds like you've just had some bad luck with the people you've met, and that happens to all of us from time to time. Some people are wonderful about responding until they get to the point where they might actually have to meet the person they've been corresponding with, while others may get matches and just poof on you because they find another person might be a better match for them. While it might be considered courteous to actually say something in these situations, not everyone is always as courteous as we would like them to be.

Don't give up, try to remain positive, and try not to fall into any conspiracy theory traps, okay? Best wishes to you.
 
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Welcome to the frustrating world of EH!

Basically you have to accept that EH is just a numbers game and not to put to much emotion into any match until you're really communicating and more probably, more correctly right before you actually meet.
 
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therecanbeonlyone is offline therecanbeonlyone Post #4  August 19,2009, 4:14pm
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Your probably right about them just being rude and not just closing me out.Should I just request to be filled in as far as what's going on or what?I dont want to sound like a wierdo who is just desperate for contact but at the same time I dont feel I should have to always take the responsibility of asking them what's going on.I hate the feeling of being put on the backburner as I think I mentioned on an earlier post a week ago.Why cant a person just get it done.Close me out already,I dont even need to get a reason just do it.This is really frustrating.
 
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There was a poster here awhile ago with an identical complaint - she did not realize that sometimes it was up to her to initiate the open communication and until she did so, her match could not contact her further.

Not saying that you are doing this, just putting it out there...
 
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therecanbeonlyone wrote :
Your probably right about them just being rude and not just closing me out.Should I just request to be filled in as far as what's going on or what?I dont want to sound like a wierdo who is just desperate for contact but at the same time I dont feel I should have to always take the responsibility of asking them what's going on.I hate the feeling of being put on the backburner as I think I mentioned on an earlier post a week ago.Why cant a person just get it done.Close me out already,I dont even need to get a reason just do it.This is really frustrating.
No, I wouldn't ask for the information. Instead, if this is making you so frustrated with these particular matches, why not just close them out and give yourself the opportunity to meet someone else?
 
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I have had a large number of matches that will go through Guided communication and then begin communicating in Open Communication / personal e-mail / phone sometimes even to the point of a first date then just poof. I did not used to get girls like this but I am getting a bunch now, in the past month or two.
 
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All of these matches was to the open communication stage.I got two or three days of messaging back and forth and then zippo.I'm reading a lot of complaints now about this even on some far back postings.Is this all part of the out-sourcing to India thing going on here?I seriously wonder sometimes about the numbers claimed and the actual number's that are on here.All of these women began to spell poorly as well,when early on they didnt mispell a single word.Does anyone see where I'm going with this?CONSPIRACY!!!!!
 
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therecanbeonlyone wrote :
All of these matches was to the open communication stage.I got two or three days of messaging back and forth and then zippo.I'm reading a lot of complaints now about this even on some far back postings.Is this all part of the out-sourcing to India thing going on here?I seriously wonder sometimes about the numbers claimed and the actual number's that are on here.All of these women began to spell poorly as well,when early on they didnt mispell a single word.Does anyone see where I'm going with this?CONSPIRACY!!!!!
Conspiracy would be much more exciting but alas no! this is just internet dating. Welcome! Isn't it fun??

Trust me, you will get use to it. And you may find yourself doing the same thing one day.
 
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