neardc is offline neardc Post #11  August 19,2009, 5:04pm
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Take a deep breath...lol. There is no conspiracy and nobody at eH is targeting you. This is just a "fact" of online dating and one that you are not alone in experiencing. If you have real reasons to suspect that a match is not who/what she says she is (e.g., she suddenly lost her passport in Nigeria and needs you to wire her money), then you should immediately contact eH customer care. But, the chances are that your matches are in fact real.

If you are finding that all of your matches with whom you are in open communication are leaving without saying goodbye, then it's time to look at how you are presenting yourself to them to see if you are doing something that may be turning them off (like talking about eH conspiracies...haha ).
 
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Craftygirl is offline Craftygirl Post #12  August 19,2009, 6:33pm
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I have a similar problem, only mine is lack of response to my initial questions. The matches just sit in my communicating box until I finally close them over a week after initiating contact. I'm beginning to realize that some people just don't close a match when they don't want to respond. They just keep me open as their third string/will do in a pinch match potential. How flattering!
 
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